The Sexually Manipulative Abuser

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Vili Fualaau, the 21 year-old boy statutorily raped by Mary Kay Letourneau when he was 12 years old, was interviewed by Matt Lauer: here . He states that she destroyed his ability to have relationships with women close to his age. He has been emotionally troubled. He was unable to finish high school. There were two children, the first born when he was 13. Sadly, Vili is now asking to reestablish contact with Letourneau."

Another link and more commentary below.Perhaps if he had better self esteem, he would realize that he didn't need her; that he has his two children and can make a life for himself. If she really is a decent person, she'll find herself the best job she can, work long hours, and support him the best that she can. She owes him at least that much. I'm not a lawyer, so I don't know where this will all end. I hope he finds happiness. It only saddens me that Letourneau may gain in all of this, and that ultimately she is the one left with the emotional power to either destroy or (perhaps seemingly) repair this young man's life. Particularly disgusting is the fact that she appears (so far as I know) entirely remorseless. She deserves everything that she got, and more. It doesn't matter how this turns out in the end. You don't take these kinds of risks with a young boy's life. Society rightfully rebukes her character. Even if Vili ends up all right in the end, it could have been worse; ergo, it's reckless endangerment.



Letourneau fits a prototype which one could label the sexually manipulative abuser.



Another article:
over here
Following are some quotes from the article:



"..."F--- HIM, if he doesn't have more class than that ... I don't expect him to forget that he has a penis [he needs to remind her it's mine] but there are other ways ... he may as well spit in his babies' faces - and tell them 'Mommy's dead' too ... it's just not right." .. "Today I heard you weren't going to court tomorrow," she said in one letter. "Why not? Did you give up? ... F--- you. Some f--king warrior. I'm fighting ... until I f--king die." ... When the lashing-out didn't work, Letourneau tried other approaches, promising Fualaau more sex and a new car if he would only tell the judge that he forced himself on her. "I LOVE YOU ... Big loves Big kisses Big f--ks Big sounds Big squeeze Big sigh Big missing you ... so so much. Hold on ... take me away." Two former inmates who knew Letourneau in prison claim she did end up having two lesbian relationships behind bars. Aside from the lesbian games, Letourneau boasted of at least one steamy romp with a male correction officer. "I fell into some crazy spell here, and I let this guy totally come on to me," she wrote to Fuave. "I let him even touch me ... more happened that you don't need to hear about. ..."



Notice the sexual teasing, provoked anxieties regarding a young adolescent's developing masculinity, insistence on exclusively emotional thinking (to which young children are susceptible, in short part due to social conditioning), use of sexual and monetary bribes. She grabs power and control over a younger person by sexual enticement and psychological torcher. Emotions can be like weapons. (A hard lesson learned for children; those who live by the sword, often die by the sword.)



Note also the hypocrisy that she employs to manipulate ("spitting in his babies' faces"... when in fact she was legally married and had four children with her previous husband at the time she statutorily raped Vili.)



Last, Letourneau wishes to be reunited with her children. She has already demonstrated lack of restraint in her sexual attachments to children. There are some indications that she has poorly developed ethical boundaries and gravitates towards the taboo. Will her visitations be supervised? I don't even know if she is on parole.



In summary, this could turn out badly for Vili or perhaps decently. What actually happens in this specific case is more or less irrelevant. If a 12 year old child were to implore a woman to drive him at 130 mph in her car "to see what it would be like to be a race car driver" and she obliged, she would be rightfully charged with reckless endangerment, regardless of the child's assent, and regardless of whether the car came to a safe halt. A criminal took an enormous risk with this child's life. Bright line, best interest.



A young boy’s eagerness for sexual attention makes him more vulnerable to sexual exploitation, not less vulnerable as some would suggest. One can only expect that the trends towards sexual exploitation of young boys by sexually aggressive women will increase in incidence over coming generations.

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