Share this with women friends: "What women don't understand about men": 100 brutal truths

The amazing Kait Willett shares "100 brutal truths men wish women knew about dating, relationships, loneliness, respect, emotional regulation, marriage, modern expectations, and what it actually feels like to be a man in today’s world." See the video essay: "I Asked 10,000 Men What Women Don't Understand" on YouTube. The video is long, but every item in it is concise and stated simply.

Quote: Truth number 26, and this is going to ruffle some titties. Your independence, it's neutral. Not attractive, not threatening, just neutral. What I find really interesting about this is that women are constantly told and have been told for years that their independence is somehow threatening to men. Now, here's the truth. Women should absolutely have areas of their lives where they are independent. But that's not intimidating to men when you are. It's actually important. But to be clear, your independence is not an attraction metric. The data on what men actually find attractive is not supported on your career or financial income whatsoever. It does not move the needle on long-term partnership or desireability. Men simply are just not filtering on that. It's not a factor for them. And what women lose by framing their independence or success as something that should excite men is genuinely developing the things that actually matter to them. Warmth, loyalty, peace, genuine reciprocity. Those are the things that actually matter to them.