Check List for Violence

Increasingly the system doesn't hear the "man's" version of things. We here know that. Unfortunately to many of us know it first hand. I wrote this article to give us a start at learning how to defend ourselves from abusers and false accusers. It doesn't have to end here either, but it's a good start. Enjoy. Read Here. You also have my permission to pass it around to those you think it might help.Check List for Violence

A self defence approach to weeding out women that are potentially violent or who will use the justice system to extort, blackmail or to commit indirect forms of violence against you.

Here is a story for ya. I used to date a young woman, we'll call her Michelle. Michelle was a liar. A big fat liar, who used to tell the most amazing stories to garner your sympathy. Not only was Michelle a liar, she was an actress. Involved in various amature plays performed at a local theatre. A deadly combination for sure.,

Here is my hell with Michelle, which in reality is not nearly as bad as some men have gone through, but, there is a bit of smart advice at the end.

Dating Michelle was interesting, she was a cross between a redhead and a blonde with a body made for porn. However, Michelle's psyche was made for psycho thrillers. This woman lied about everything and anything. She lied about having cancer, which I drove up to see her in the hospital two towns over to be with her. She lied about being pregnant, she lied about a cist being removed from her overies as being something much more serious. She lied to the police about me breaking into her house, when in fact she broke into my house and stole my stuff. She put on quite a performance, and played the little helpless victim for the heroic and chivilrous cops to eat up and I had to higher a lawyer. This little lovely also virtually blackmailed me. She knew that I was going to Europe and that I was going without her so she told me that I would go to jail based on her report to the police if I did not take her. What was worse, she could do it and the police would believe it. Welcome to Ontario.

Did I also tell you about her stalking me even after we had broke up? This little honey made friends with my current girlfriend in order to get close to me. She is a devious woman.

I went to Europe without her and face the music when I got back because she was so pissed she did file a report. It was obvious the charge was fallacious and it was thrown out. But the hell and anxiety I went through was aweful and nobody gave a darn about me simply because I was a man and they were trained otherwise about these situations.

My feelings now is that the system is all about process and politics. Not truth and justice as I was raised to believe.

Now get this, even after we broke up, and after the court b.s. in which I had a restraining order agaisnt me to see her she kept harassing me. It was me who was trying to get rid of her but the system gave her the leverage to play me and try to control me to do her whim. After all the lies about cancer and such I dumped her, she made friends with my girlfriend and got back into my house even after I told her and everyone else that I never wanted her around again. She stole a number of my things, which I wish I just had of let go, and kept them. She moved right into an apartment down the road from me and was doing her laundry at my house weekly. Gawd. Now back to the story.

So Michelle, after about a year or two, calls me right out of the blue. She asks me what I'm doing, how things are going etc... I'm fine, things are good, so what? But of course I'm playing nice. She then is making a date with me. And during all this nice time extending over a couple of calls she goes over the list. The list is very simple, do I have a house, do I own my own car, how much money am I making, how much is in my bank account, how big is my house, of course you get the idea. It seems meaningless and typical questions for a girl looking for a status guy but it gets worse, let me tell you. The conversation moves along and she starts to tell me about her life. About her life with her latest boyfriend. Guess what, they lived together and well, he beat her up.

Automatically I don't care. I don't care if she lied, or if he did. My assumption is she probably threw a large pair of cutting shears at him like she did me, but unlike me he wailed off and hit her. Whatever. It turns out my little sweetheart has been to a shelter and this woman, who by every definition of the word a freeloader, was not trying to be with me as a longterm commitment. She was trying to be with me for a short term commitment. One just long enough to allow her to make an allegation about me to the police which under the new law bill c 117 which was passed recently, gives her all of my stuff. That's right. She by court order would have my house, car, bank account and probably my wages signed right over to her on the spot. Think I'm kidding. I don't even have to hit her. She just has to have some sort of intuition about it. It could be the furtherest thing from my mind and a sunny beautiful day and that's what she can claim in Ontario.

Does it work both ways? I doubt it, no one really talks about men as victims. However I am hearing more and more about men using this tactic. But there are no shelters for men, and no stats pounded on billboards that show men as victims. No pamplets or social workers ready to speak to men on the subject and inform them of their rights.

I hear it is increasingly like this in several states as well. Colorado? California?

There is a high motivation to make allegations here. In Australia they are now looking at the possibility of male suicides related to court decisions. I think they should also look into the possibility that the courts decisions and politicians panderings are also contributing to homocides as well. The unjust laws are creating crime. Quite frankley the system is already in dispute, they are just unwilling to either accept it or acknowledge it because in my opinion they are cowards who are only to happy to ride that gravy chain of in-justice.

Honestly, if someone took away everything you have and worked so hard for, even in my case for possibly only a one night stand, you might be tempted to kill someone and or yourself. Feminists can have all the vigils they want, their brain-washing tactics are wearing thin on the rest of us and not just men, but mothers, daughters, sons, sisters, brothers and all relatives of the victims the system creates because of political insentive and dishonesty about the facts.

Like I said, Welcome to Ontario, and if you hear that check list being recited, you know what to do.

By Dan Lynch.

Dan Lynch is a Fellow Mann administrator, has studied Self-Defence for over 23 years and he is a trained mediator.

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