
NPO: Family Courts’ Anti-Father Practices Produce Single Fathers By Choice
Article here. Excerpt:
'For decades we’ve had “single mothers by choice.” Now fathers are making the same one. This article on the subject of men opting for fatherhood without a partner is long, thoughtful and informative (The Guardian, 11/1/13). It’s also, to my mind, less judgmental than it ought to be.
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But the many reasons single parenthood isn’t a good idea for children when women do it all apply to men as well. One big reason is money. Two parents can earn more than one and the lack of money alone creates a host of problems for single parents and their kids. ...
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In short, the children of single fathers will be exempt from none of the slings and arrows that those of single mothers try, often unsuccessfully, to withstand. So the smart money says their outcomes won’t be any better.
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However, one factor portends an ever-greater movement in the direction of single fathers adopting kids.
"What I find with single men, is one of two things," [U.S. lawyer and surrogacy expert Melissa] Brisman says. "Either they have been very successful in their careers and built businesses and they've not had time to meet anyone. Or they've had a very bad divorce and are afraid to get married and have their businesses threatened, or their custody threatened, and they would just prefer to go it alone. They know with surrogacy they won't have these issues." Brisman is convinced that the tendency of family courts to award custody to the mother is a key driver in the rise of heterosexual single fathers.
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Given the cold, hard facts of family courts, it’s all too easy to see why a man who wants a child would opt to forego marriage and adopt a baby out of foster care or from a foreign country. Family court is a minefield for fathers. Why set foot there if you don’t have to?'
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