"Why I was forced to abandon my son and didn't see him again for ten crucial years"
Article here. What's unusual is that this link appeared under the "Femail" heading on the DM website. Excerpt:
'I see the long-term harm done by absent dads and the lack of appropriate male role-models, and I experience the damage caused by unsocialised boys - both to themselves and to others - and their inability to function as men.
And yet I abandoned my own son, just at the time when he was starting junior school, and I didn't see him again for those ten crucial years when character development is at its most vulnerable. And I'm still not exactly sure why.
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Fortunately, I knew that if I withdrew from his life, Joe wouldn't lack for male role-models: on his mum's side he has uncles aplenty and they're mostly of that warm, jocular, physical brand of masculinity that is easy and uncomplicated and supportive. They'd do, I thought. They're not me, but they'd do.
And this is how you abandon your children. Not with fireworks, not with emotional catharsis or some lingering cinematic close-up, but incrementally, with sadness, tiredness and an "OK, they'll do".'
What a painful thing to read. It's cognitive dissonance in action, only on a deeply, profoundly emotional level, pushed onto men and their children by a legal system and society that cannot wait to get rid of them. Sometimes I just plain wonder how our civilization continues.
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I wonder too
"Sometimes I just plain wonder how our civilization continues."
With a nod to my standard comment below, Matt, might I simply ask "what civilisation?" Do you think we still have one?
Civilisation: man's greatest, and most unappreciated, gift to women
That Was Hard to Read
It just about made me want to cry just imagining poor Joe growing up without his dad, and all because his mother was a woman who redefined the word "bitch". They really ought to rewrite the child support laws and make it so that if access to the child is ever denied, then so is the child support. Of course in this world which kisses ornery female ass as much as possible, it's unlikely this will happen.
Evan AKA X-TRNL
Real Men Don't Take Abuse!