"We fought for equality. So why do greedy wives still sponge off their ex-husbands?"

Submitted by Matt on Sun, 2013-06-02 14:20

From last month, but a good article just saying it like it is, here. Excerpt:

'Far from being an unlucky, isolated example, my friend is one of the growing number of men who find themselves losing everything through divorce.

Meanwhile, women, ever more, seem to be living by the principle of ‘don’t get mad, get everything’.

And often, they go on getting everything for years, long after time has been called on their marriage.

In these days of equal education, opportunities and access to professions, women are still humiliating themselves by expecting (and receiving) huge and continuing settlements when a marriage ends.

I consider myself a feminist, but I don’t see why today’s divorcing women should expect any kind of settlement at all.
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Yet modern women are still positioning themselves as the weaker vessel having to be kept by a big strong man, whether married or divorced. We have fought for equality, and many battles have been won, but divorcing women are still making out they are pathetic little Fifties housewives unable to fend for themselves, before ruthlessly fleecing the men they once professed to love.

They should be utterly ashamed.

Depressingly, this year’s Rich List, for the first time, included a separate list for divorced women whose only source of vast wealth was that provided by their ex-husbands. The compilers of the list said that if you are an attractive woman, possibly your best guarantee of a huge income is to marry a super-rich man and then divorce him a few years later.'

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At least a man with $200 million in the bank can afford to get whacked by an outgoing money-grubbing soon-to-be ex. Left with only half that, he can still "get by". It's men with a lot less also getting whacked that fare much more adversely. I've known a number of middle- or upper-middle class men who've been whacked by ex-wives like this and things go much worse for them since they don't have nearly the same financial resources left to fall back on.

They have this in common, though: they've learned, but the hard way. They never re-marry and if they date at all, they avoid single mothers like the plague and any time a dating partner mentions the "M" word, they drop her like a hot coal. Such are the consequences of the man meat-grinder that is the "modern" divorce court system.

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Submitted by Matt on Sun, 2013-06-02 14:29

Matt, everything I come across seems to say that divorced men are eager to remarry at a significanlty higher rate compared to divorced women.

As part of my parenting plan with my ex, I was forced to take a one day parenting class (some state requirement bullshit). The "experts" running the class rattled off some stats about how the father will usually remarry within two years of the divorce, and mothers tend to wait much longer or never remarry. Much has to do with fathers getting back into the dating pool more quickly often aided by not having primary custody of the kids.

Although I know only a few divorced couples, this matches with what I have seen. Single women are more likely to date older, divorced fathers compared to single men who are less willing to date divorced mothers. So divorced men have a much larger dating pool to choose from compared to divorced women. They often re-marry women with no baggage (never married and/or no children)

http://www.babble.com/babble-voices/sweetney-spice/2012/02/22/love-and-re-marriage-why-do-divorced-men-want-to-remarry-and-divorced-women-dont/

PS- even Paul McCartney has remarried after his experience with Heather Mills.

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Submitted by Kris on Mon, 2013-06-03 18:34

don't learn the 1st time and repeat the process

sometimes they get lucky the 2nd or 3rd time

however if we are talking about stat s and such

2nd marriages have a much much higher failure rate than the 1st

and third marriages again much much less chance of success

life is short and often wasted in such improbable pursuits on long odds

there is a reason the vast majority of divorce$ are filed for by women

and again the percentages grow when children are involved

it amazes me how many women and men claim to be feminists

yet overlook the price everyone else children and men

pay for women s privilege all the while claiming victimhood

clever and successful ploy beyond measure

yet it is evil

imho one can easily spot evil

this whole mess called divorce is just one bad fruit from a very evil tree

feminism: sorry true definition is politically incorrect

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Submitted by daveinga on Tue, 2013-06-04 00:56

... to your experiences re this topic but only my own. Perhaps it's that the men I've known in this position are into middle age and their kids are in college (so they're on the hook for that) and also aren't looking to have more kids. A couple guys I've known who were divorced a little earlier had younger kids and so looking at child support (and sometimes also alimony) payments, simply couldn't afford more expenses in the form of dates (yep, men are still expected to pay for dates despite who makes more money and if they don't-- well, they don't have second dates) and the eventual expectations that'll be put on them to buy steady gfs stuff like vacations, etc.

For these guys it came down to three things: expense, risk, and hassle. The expenses associated w/ having a new wife/LTR/dating schedule were looking too high. The risk, they had learned, was too high. And the hassles that are part of any relashionship were just a but too familiar to them.

But as I said, these are guys *I* have known. Undoubtedly you've known different ones. :)

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Submitted by Matt on Tue, 2013-06-04 03:53

I was going off every article and statistic I have ever come across which indicate men are eager to re-marry and often do so within two years of divorce. They re-marry more often than women, but it is how quickly they re-marry which is significant. But obviously your friends don't fall into this category. You were speaking of your personal observations, I was speaking about men in general.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2093835/Divorced-men-twice-keen-marry-divorced-women-study-finds.html

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/vicki-larson/why-divorced-men-are-quic_b_980121.html

http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_500/513_why-a-new-girlfriend-is-the-last-thing-you-need.html

http://www.babble.com/babble-voices/sweetney-spice/2012/02/22/love-and-re-marriage-why-do-divorced-men-want-to-remarry-and-divorced-women-dont/

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Submitted by Kris on Wed, 2013-06-05 00:40