Hugs are now ‘sexual assault’ at UVA
Article here. Excerpt:
'If you hug your boyfriend and as a result your clothed body (including your breasts) touches him, you could be accused of “sexual assault” through “sexual contact” under the University of Virginia’s broad new “sexual assault” policy adopted to appease the Office for Civil Rights, where I used to work (assuming you do it without explicitly agreeing on the details of the hug). Because U.Va. lumps together touching, “however slight,” and intercourse when it comes to sexual assault, requiring “affirmative” consent for both. (“Affirmative consent” is a misleading term, and does not include many forms of consent that occur in the real world, and are recognized by the courts, as I explain at this link. The new policy further warns that “Relying solely on non-verbal communication before or during sexual activity can lead to misunderstanding and may result in a violation of this Policy.” Portions of U.Va.’s policy are reprinted below.).
This is an outrageous violation of students’ privacy rights.
Moreover, making out is now effectively forbidden at the University of Virginia, which has rewritten its Interim Sexual Assault Policy under the impetus of the Education Department’s Title IX investigation. U.Va.’s new policy requires “affirmative consent” (rather than “effective consent,” as before) not just to sex, but also sexual contact, which encompasses touching. Of course, no one ever says things like “may I touch your breast” before doing so. These things are welcomed after they begin, not authorized in advance, but the policy effectively forbids step-by-step ratification after the fact (i.e., making out) by banning any touching “however slight” without such authorization, so if you touch your partner an instant before they welcome it, you’ve presumably violated the policy. ...'
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Just wondering
If you ask someone a question of a sexual nature--can I kiss you?--isn't that a form of sexual harassment, if the person you are asking does not wish to be kissed?
So even if you ask first, you could still be accused of sexual harassment (as distinct from sexual assault).
So, before you ask someone if you can kiss them, do you have to ask them "Can I ask you if I can kiss you?" But that question is still of a sexual nature, so it's still sexual harassment.
So do you have to ask to ask to ask? At what point can you ask a question about kissing which is not in itself about kissing and thus not sexual harassment? As far as I can tell, never--even if you asked an infinite number of questions.
In short, if you don't ask, you're guilty of sexual assault. If you do ask, you're guilty of sexual harassment. Because we all know that unwanted questions of a sexual nature are sexual harassment. Even if it's your wife that you're asking. And if you kiss her without asking, it's sexual assault.
So what's a man to do?