
"'Man-Spreading' Is All About Ego"
Article here. Excerpt:
'Inspired by New York's Metropolitan Transportation Authority, the move to ban "man-spreading" -- men who sit on public transit with their knees spread so far apart that they actually take up seats next to them -- has reached Toronto and the Toronto Transit Commission, and it's caused some interesting gender chatter.
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Funny thing about virility: it's often not what it seems. Like male animals, much of the virility is false but the display can be stunning. I had a boyfriend with a huge set of testicles that hung heavily under his pinkie-sized penis which only ejaculated prematurely, so I wouldn't say that large testicles necessarily indicate virility. The whole puffed-up, I-have-bigger-balls-than-you-and-that-makes-me-more-masculine mentality of man-spreaders is a delusion, mere posturing.
In the animal world as Dabbs mentions, panache works to look dominant and impress the opposite sex. I cannot imagine any woman being attracted to a man who tries so hard to show he's masculine by exposing what he thinks are mammoth testicles to prove his manhood, while simultaneously imposing himself into other people's space.
I'm not even sure that men are aware of how much space they take up because they haven't been challenged on it until recently. Once men are called on it however, many will acknowledge their puffed-up, space-taking wrongdoing and change their position (at least this is what happens in polite Toronto). Several times I've been on public transit and saw the only seat available beside a wide-kneed man. Instead of being intimidated, I walk over and say,excuse me!, then lower my bottom into the seat (young men will often scowl because I've messed up the big, powerful space he's created around himself). If a man's leg is in my space, I ask him to please give me some more leg room and I've never had an argument. Politeness and a kind smile can do wonders for personal comfort, so I recommend it.'
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Suppose such a disgustingly...
... nasty and insulting screed as this written in rough equivalence to women who for example board buses and subways with loads of packages from shopping, who use seats (and rather unwisely) as perches for their purses, or who themselves engage in "womanspreading", would've made it to press? Never. It'd've been nixed by the editor and the male author possibly fired just for submitting it.
The HuffPo once again showing its misandrist colors.