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Nonprofit supports rights of those accused of campus sexual assault
Submitted by Mastodon on Tue, 2014-08-26 13:58
Article here. Excerpt:
'Sherry Warner Seefeld spent nearly three months worrying that her son would end up in the state penitentiary.
“I saw not just his career and future damaged, but more importantly, his emotional and psychological health destroyed,” said the Fargo mother and sociology teacher. “I hurt for Caleb so much.”
In January 2010, Caleb Warner was accused of sexually assaulting another University of North Dakota student. While he was never charged with a crime, the next month Warner was kicked out of UND after a Student Relations Committee found him in violation of criminal sexual assault laws and “conducting himself in a manner that significantly endangers the health or safety of members of the university community.”
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She and two other mothers who say their sons were falsely accused of sexual misconduct recently formed a national nonprofit organization called Families Advocating for Campus Equality to provide a support system for other families going through what they experienced and to bring awareness to what they call a “lack of fair and balanced safeguards within campus hearings.”
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Two and a half months after Warner received the letter from UND’s Student Relations Committee stating that he was being suspended from the university and banned from campus and university activities for three years, Warner’s accuser, Jessica Murray, was charged with making a false report to law enforcement and a warrant was issued for her arrest, according to court documents.
Warner was never charged. There is still a warrant out for the arrest of Murray, who was living in California when the court documents were filed in May 2010.
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In the meantime, Warner’s future was derailed, his mother said. He lost a job he loved — helping coach high school wrestling — and he was forced to quit another job because he couldn’t set foot on campus.
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She said while her son can go back to UND, he never will, and he’s not sure whether he’ll ever go back to college.
He also said he doesn’t ever want to get married or have children, Warner Seefeld said.
“It’s hard for him to trust again,” she said.
He cannot talk about what happened without it affecting him for months, she said.
“It crushed his spirit in ways that are unimaginable,” Warner Seefeld said. “He sobbed on the floor for hours.”'
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Terrible experience, though maybe it's saved him worse
At his age, such an ordeal indeed is hugely traumatic. He has had no prior bad things (I assume) of significant magnitude that make him feel like a pariah, except perhaps being a male undergrad at a college campus infested with feminism.
Still, being a member of an openly derided category of person is not an unknown experience to many, including males, and with of course modifiers to keep things interesting. Typically when a group is derided, it's really the men of the group who are the primary targets of hatred. When brownshirts physically attacked Jews in Berlin streets in the 1930s, it was typically Jewish men targeted. When Islamists cry "Death to {Americans/westerners/Christians/Jews/actual, real Muslims/etc.}" their primary target in mind is male. When the KKK attacked black people, were their principal targets black women? No, black men. Do women and children get excluded from the race- or religion-based hatred of others? No. But the first picks are male. And when dealing w/ feminists, Target One is always going to be men, then women who disagree with them trailing a distant second.
Being an undergrad male on campus today must be a pretty nasty experience. If I were attending a college that got bitten by the rabid feminist fruit-bug and so went coo-coo, I'd probably move off campus. (Transferring can be expensive, and I suppose it'd depend on what year I was in.) But as bad as it might be, a lot worse is becoming the specific target of the pseudo-ersatz-can-you-believe-this-happens-in-America campus kangaroo feminist courts of persecution that are allowed to get away with this sort of thing. A 40-year-old would laugh his nuts off at it and call his lawyer to get the civil case around slander and libel going. Hell, he may even call the local paper himself to tell them to cover it! But an 18 or 19-YO with little real-world experience in dealing with a$$holes is more likely to take it all too seriously.
So, I feel for this guy and hope he can soon get past it, but one good thing has come of it for him, and I hope he doesn't discard it too soon: reticence re marriage/paternity. If he can't consider it til later (a lot, maybe) in life, or if he can take the aisle walk but only with a woman who definitely does not want kids or physically cannot do so, that'd be good. Worse thing a young guy can do is marry while he's... well, young. Not til one is older and I'd hope, wiser, *if at all*, and then only if he's _very_ sure of his pick. The risk today is too great. Until or unless men have real rights in the contexts of marriage and/or paternity, or marriage as a legal arrangement is modified to protect better the interests of all parties to it (not just the missus'), a man should think of it as the proverbial risky business venture. If one plans to buy 1,000 shares in an alligator farm in Florida, he better be pretty sure about dem 'gators!
No way to be fair to men
There is no way the new "administrative" tribunals can be fair to men. Those administrators know who's paying their bills: the Feds. So the administrator makes the Feds happy by issuing a "guilty" verdict. Guilty verdicts likely will not be reviewed. "Not guilty" likely will be reviewed. To keep the federal money flowing, the admin finds the man guilty.
In the end, I don't see how universities can survive this. They can lose federal money, be sued by the female student, and be sued by the male student. Just fighting the suits will put a huge dent in their budget. And a large settlement could destroy them. So we may be seeing the end of the American university. They can only raise tuition so much.