University hosted workshop to teach men how to give girlfriends orgasms -- no reciprocation mentioned

"Rutgers hosts workshop to teach women how to give their boyfriends orgasms"

Maybe this, too:
"Rutgers hosts workshop to teach men to put their own sexual satisfaction before their partner's"

Somewhat apples-to-oranges, I admit. The details of intercourse encourage males to ejaculate quickly while there is no guarantee the female will have an orgasm. Typically men continue to "do their thing" until they ejaculate. Some, especially when younger, can retain an erection and continue to move their hips, thereby increasing the likelihood the female will have an orgasm before he loses his erection.

But really, do people of either sex at college age have that much trouble having orgasms? I don't recall, "all those years ago", that we had much trouble having orgasms. At that age, people of both sexes have orgasms when the wind picks up!

Anyway, the problem with this kind of thing is that it is in essence saying "OK guys, here's how to get a girl off so that she really enjoys it!" Where's the equivalent workshop for females? After all, no one is born knowing how to do things sexually with others that are *really* enjoyable vs. just naturally encouraged by instinct. Will RU be holding that workshop any time soon?

Matt, your comment is revealing...

"But really, do people of either sex at college age have that much trouble having orgasms?"

I am going to gamble that in a self-define "rape culture", feminists do have trouble having orgasms with men. I assume they have no problem with other women (passing no value judgement here), but they have difficulty enjoying men when they believe the penis is a weapon.

Dang, I wish I could attend this just for the opportunity to discuss this point.

This may be projection on my part, and I'm not sure I'm going to come up with the right words to express myself, but I see this sort of the way feminist want protection from rape, but also want to be sexually provocative....or the femen protestors who don't want women to be objectified, but they go topless to draw attention to themselves.

In order to keep being victims of sex crimes, they have to keep promoting female sexuality.

No better place to do this then college /s

I hope I'm making some sense.

I think we are coming at the same point from different angles.

It is sort of like discussing sex positively in a women's studies department.

How do they do it? They have to first acknowledge men exist.

I think Matt hit on the irony of it all...

Teacher: Class, today we will discuss vibrators and dildos
Student: But, teacher, why do we need those if we can find a guy with a pe...
Teacher: Shut up! That's rape. Find a woman.
Student: But then I might suffer Lesbian Bed Death
(http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/ask-dr-darcy/201104/lesbian-bed-death-cpr)
Teacher: Shut up! That does not exist.
Student: Why are you always telling me to shut up?
Teacher: I'm a feminist.

In today's world, a woman who has lots of sexual partners but uses BC to keep from getting pregnant is described as having "responsible sex." We used to call that "promiscuity"--which was discouraged.

My observation is that women want to be free to have as much sex as they want but still be protected from any time of "sexual assault." As one woman told me, we don't need rules for women but do need rules for men. Such women work on the "dildo theory" of male sexuality--men turn on when the woman wants sex and turn off when the woman no longer wants sex. They call this "male self-control" when really it's "female control of the male." This entire approach makes preventing sexual assault amazingly difficult because telling a woman not to engage in risky behavior is "blaming the victim." We expect children to exercise more caution than a college coed. A female columnist who recently recommended women (and men) not get drunk as a way to prevent sexual assault was widely criticized by feminists.

Feminists believe women should be free to do whatever they want and to do so safely. Women should have no responsibility for their own safety--that responsibility lies with men and society. But, of course, that's the attitude of a child. Each individual has responsibility for their own safety--and if the individual doesn't take that responsibility, why should they expect someone else to?