malecodependence.com

Just came across this site: http://malecodependence.com/

I think it might be a good resource for men struggling to find ways to deal with disempowering relationships of all kinds, etc. Off-linked was this article: Weak men who try to please and from that, by the same author on her web site: It’s Time Men Stand Up and Say “No!”. She pretty much lays it out good. Excerpt:

'The feminist movement has upset the apple cart for men. Women have blamed men for all the problems and accepted none of the responsibility. Years ago, women were the victims. Now it’s turned around, and men are.
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Men are damned if the do and damned if they don’t. They’re accused of trying to get the upper hand if they pay for dinner, and of being cheap when they don’t. They’re chauvinists if they open doors and inconsiderate if they don’t. They’re macho if they don’t show feelings and wimps if they do.

Men haven’t gained as much as they’ve lost. They’re expected to do half the housework but not require their wives to bring in half the income. They no longer get the nurturing they had in traditional relationships, but are often still expected to carry the responsibility.

And men’s personal rights over home and family have always suffered. Women may have had trouble gaining the right to abortion. But men never get included in the decision as to whether they have to support another child or not.

Many women secretly get pregnant. Some men spend years paying for a sexual mistake some woman used against them to force marriage.
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Women have copped an attitude that they can take care of themselves. Yet, most women will admit that they’d still like to be taken care of. They send a double message: “Take care of me, but don’t control me because I’ll hate you for it.” They want men to stay tough enough to provide them with someone to lean on. And when a man doesn’t “act like a man,” they ridicule him about his masculinity until he feels obligated to get back in his role.

The fact is, women don’t want the responsibility that comes with control. Women are asking men to give up their control but keep up their responsibility. How fair is that?

It’s time for men to say “No!”'