The End of Courtship?

Submitted by Matt on Mon, 2013-01-14 16:53

Article here. Summary: single women are annoyed that single men are not interested in blowing $100 on a "date", thereby reducing how "special" they feel and worse yet, they can't eat for free on the week-ends. Though the comments are closed, they're interesting reading. Excerpt:

'Dodgy economic prospects facing millennials also help torpedo the old, formal dating rituals. Faced with a lingering recession, a stagnant job market, and mountains of student debt, many young people — particularly victims of the “mancession” — simply cannot afford to invest a fancy dinner or show in someone they may or may not click with.
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A much-publicized study by Reach Advisors, a Boston-based market research group, found that the median income for young, single, childless women is higher than it is for men in many of the country’s biggest cities (though men still dominate the highest-income jobs, according to James Chung, the company’s president).  This may be one reason it is not uncommon to walk into the hottest new West Village bistro on a Saturday night and find five smartly dressed young women dining together — the nearest man the waiter. Income equality, or superiority, for women muddles the old, male-dominated dating structure.'

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There's still this pernicious idea despite decades of feminism that says the man should pay for the dates, period. And if they won't ask women on dates under these conditions, they're bad. Yet younger men in the area this piece is written about (New York City) are on average earning less than young women. But even if they earned more, expecting them to pay for dates unilaterally still wouldn't be fair. But neither traditionalists nor feminists care much about "fair".

If I were in younger men's shoes and lived in NYC, I don't think I'd even bother trying to "date". Whole idea is not only out-of-date since the context it was developed in has changed, but it's reached the point of being ludicrous given how society (esp. in NYC) has changed. And really, does anyone alive today who is under 70 have any right to wag their finger at the 20-something crowd over a "breakdown of traditional values"? Seriously, don't make me laugh. How do they think it got started anyway? The mirror holds their answer.

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Submitted by Matt on Mon, 2013-01-14 19:06

Radical lesbian feminists have wanted to destroy the male-female romance, so as to have more females from which to choose. They are getting what they wanted. But maybe it's something that needed to happen anyway. The whole romance thing was based on fantasy. It's time to get real.

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Submitted by redwoodwriter on Tue, 2013-01-15 03:43