Maine Compass: Father's Day is a time to reflect on meaning of being a 'good dad'

Funny how he managed to escape the stereotypes he talks about but, supposedly, the rest of us men didn't.

American male culture does not support violence against women, except in self-defense. Even then, most men will tolerate a lot before they strike back.

It used to be everyone knew this--most men were good but a few weren't. Nobody respected men who resorted to violence against women. There were outlaws, brigands, criminals. Today, all men are lumped together. All men, not just the bad guys, are the enemy. It's become anti-male propaganda instead of an effort to stop criminal acts.

I posted this. I doubt it will be approved.

" The answer is written daily under the police blotter section of our newspapers. The answer is "Yes." We expect far too little from men in America."

Are you kidding me. Not a day goes by that I don't see an article just like this one that holds ALL men responsable for stoping violence, well, at least violence against women, violence against men is still deemed acceptable, especially when perpetrated by a woman, but I digress. Not a day goes by that people like you expect men to control the hearts and minds of every other man out there, because as Obama's new campaign says "1 is 2 many". So if even a single woman is harmed, doesn't matter if she broke a broomstick over the guys head, it is unacceptable and, as you argue here, all men must be held accountable. How is this not expecting much from men.

"One of the most influential places boys learn to be men is in school, from peers who have learned at a young age to fit in; they make up the popular crowd."

Actually, the most influential indicator is their father. But I suppose with the growing fatherlessness problem raised by the lack of male parental and reproductive rights, that indicator is quickly disappearing. But I suppose that can't be woman's doing ether... it's not like they have a say in whether the father can spend time with the kids.

"As I look back now, I am thankful for a few good male role models along the way who demonstrated a masculinity of respect."

Respect? You call admonishing all men, especially fathers, on fathers day respect? Your role models would be ashamed of the definition of respect you seemed to pick up. Or do you believe respect is only applicable to how women are treated?

And worst of all is the arrogance in believing you are somehow special. That men as a whole are irresponsible abusers, but it is you, not them, that are out of the ordinary.

You say privilege is invisible until you look for it. That sounds an awful lot like conspiracy theories to me. You can find nearly anything you want in anything you look at if you look hard enough. The bigotry you display against men in this article however is not invisible, it is clear as day. But I suspect that won't help you see it.

I'm surprised they posted my comment:

Wow, you picked the most inappropriate day to post this article. You have a pretty strange idea of what masculinity is. Where I grew up it was about sacrificing for others and being disposable, not committing violence against others. The male privilege I know of is being denied funding for school because you have a penis, and having your parents' preferences trump your rights to a full body and full sex-life. How dare you propagate a false stereotype about fathers on father's day, of all days?! Newsflash, most child abuse is committed by women, and women are just as likely to commit domestic violence against men. I dare you to write an article about that on Mother's day! You're a misandrist!