
"Women a driving force behind higher volunteerism rate"
More from the "They're just plain better" Dept., here. At least this time it's sort-of-kind-of acknowledged that one reason you see men volunteering less is, *shocker*, they're out earning the money that women spend or have spent on them. Still, it doesn't stop the article from touting women as being so much better than men, but of course, they are also under so much pressure to be good volunteers. Read:
'WASHINGTON — Looking for volunteers?
The person most likely to say yes is a married white woman between 35 and 44 who’s a college graduate, works part time and has at least one child under 18, according to a Bureau of Labor Statistics survey released last month.
For millions of women who fit that profile, the findings are no surprise. They know the social pressure to help out as classroom moms, PTA volunteers, sports team coaches, snack moms at soccer games, cookie sale coordinators for the Girl Scouts and a multitude of other self-sacrificing assignments.
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Fran Weisberg, co-chair of the Women’s Leadership Council of the United Way of Greater Rochester, said she was not surprised by the Bureau of Labor Statistics findings.
“I believe there is something unique, a certain empathy and caring that we as women have, either through our personal experiences or a sense of understanding and compassion,” she said. “I do believe women are more apt to volunteer and to give and say ‘I believe I can make a difference in the lives of others.’”'
Galled?
Read this:
'Nationally, men volunteered at a rate 6.4 percentage points lower than women, according to the federal survey. And their participation was almost unchanged from the year before.
Westchester County resident Diane Luftig, 42, of New Rochelle said her husband, Larry, would volunteer more but doesn’t have the time. He works long days as a banker, heading out at 5:30 a.m. weekdays to commute to lower Manhattan’s financial district.
Allison DiMarco, 40, of Penfield cites the same issue — long work hours — as the major obstacle for her husband, Rich, who works in construction.
“The men have to be the breadwinners,” she said.'
On the surface, somewhat "vindicating", as if it's presumed all good people do or should volunteer. (What would that famous female economist, Ayn Rand, have said about such a statement, I wonder?). I'll tell you what galls me about that statement: It's the presumption that men HAVE to be the breadwinners. No, we don't. Fact is, we can be whatever the hell we feel like being and if others don't or won't accept it, then bye-bye to them.
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Work vs volunteering
Some ten years ago I read a front-page story in the local rag about a "dead-beat dad." He had agreed to pay $200,000 a year but his business had gone bad and he only managed to pay $100,000 a year. His ex-wife, in the meantime, had volunteered her time but still had managed to contribute $1,000 to her child.
He pays $100,000 to support his child. She pays $1,000.
The judge, of course, put the man in jail for failing to meet his legal obligations.
It's an example of what I call "punishing men who behave responsibly." If the government wants men to behave responsibly, perhaps they should quit putting them in jail when they do.
Sorry Matt
"I'll tell you what galls me about that statement: It's the presumption that men HAVE to be the breadwinners. No, we don't. Fact is, we can be whatever the hell we feel like being and if others don't or won't accept it, then bye-bye to them."
Sorry Matt, but you should know as well as anybody that, despite the fact we "shouldn't" HAVE to be the breadwinner, current laws and family court policies/outcomes, etc have actually made it so that we do HAVE to be the breadwinner. If a man remains a stay at home dad, but gets divorced, it's right back out into the job market for him so he can be breadwinner to mother and child. The breadwinner gender role still exists and is enforced, it shouldn't be, but it is.
Otherwise, I agree with you, it's just another example of female chauvinism.
Agreed, but you can still make the choice beforehand
A man can avoid that situation in nearly all cases by refraining from reproducing. This is something I generally recommend to men. It's too dangerous for men to reproduce except in rare circumstances.