Baby P and the Child Abuse Industry

Submitted by Matt on Mon, 2009-03-30 01:09

Story here. Excerpt:

'The Baby P killing reveals the child abuse industry at its most cynical. The Soviet-style ineptitude revealed daily is the product not of poor training or underfunding but of the logic inherent in bureaucratic politics.

We have long known what causes child abuse and why children like Baby P die. The vast preponderance of child abuse and child deaths occurs in single-parent homes. Very little abuse takes place in married, twoparent families. London’s Family Education Trust long ago demonstrated that children are up to 33 times more likely to suffer serious abuse and 73 times more likely to suffer fatal abuse in the home of a mother with a live-in boyfriend or stepfather than in an intact family.

Figures from the US Justice Department show that single mothers accounted for 55 per cent of child murders. Shorn of politically correct euphemism, what this means is that the principal impediment to child abuse is a father. ‘Fathers have often played the protector role inside families,’ writes Adrienne Burgess of Fathers Direct. A study in the journal Adolescent and Family Health found that ‘The presence of the father … placed the child at lesser risk for child sexual abuse.’

Yet instead of allowing fathers to protect their children, fathers are forcibly and systematically removed from their homes and children by family courts with the active support of social work bureaucracies. Ironically, this is often effected using trumped-up charges of child abuse against fathers, though statistically biological fathers are responsible for very little abuse. Judges claim they remove fathers, even without evidence of abuse, to ‘err on the side of caution’. In fact they are erring on the side of danger, and it is difficult to believe they do not realize it. Thus the child abuse apparatchiks remove the children’s natural protector, whereupon the real abusers — the single mother and her boyfriends — are free to abuse his children with impunity. Groups like Fathers4Justice and protesters like Jolly Stanesby are vilified for calling attention to the confiscation and abuse of their children, when they are merely responding as any parent can be expected to do when someone interferes with his child.'

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I whole heartedly agree with this!

Fathers are very important in preventing abuse. I have so much to write about this based on personal experience.

Many of you know I am adopted as I have mentioned it several times. My parents adopted 4 children, My two older sisters were adopted right at birth, and my brother and I were adopted later when we were 3 and 4 years old. My brother and I share the same birth mother.

Our birth mother had 5 children by the time she was 24! (including a set of twins and me and my brother). She was unable to take care of us, and my brother and I were taken into foster care, I guess because we were the youngest. The rest of my biological siblings stayed with my birth mom and lived in poverty in a trailer.

I don't know the details of the situation, but my siblings died in a house fire. My birth mother was charged with neglect as she was not at home the night the fire occurred. She was distraught and committed suicide soon afterwards.

I was about 3 when this happened, so I have no memories. My brother and I were adopted into my great family soon afterwards.

This is one reason why I advocate for women to give their babies up for adoption. There is no question in my mind that children deserve to be wanted and well cared for by BOTH parents.

I know firsthand that intact families provide the safest environment.

I also have a lot to say about step-fathers vs. biological fathers (I say biological, but since I am adopted, it goes w/o saying that it includes adopted fathers as well).

Here is my personal experience in regards to this subject:

I went to a very small, religious private school from 1st grade to 9th grade. There was only about 24 students in each grade. So I had the same classmates every year, for 9 years. Most students came from upper-class, two-parent homes, where high morals and high standards were taught. I had many sleep-overs at these classmate's homes. Nothing inappropriate ever occurred. I doubt that any of these girls have experienced any type of sexual abuse. I am still friends with these girls as we are like sisters in a way.

In ninth grade I switched mid-year to a public school. I was like a fish out of water. I knew no one. The easiest people to make friends with were the stoner guys and the slutty girls. Most of these people come from single mother/step dad type homes ('step dad' definition also includes mom's latest boyfriend).

From my personal knowledge it is almost exclusively girls that do not have biological fathers in the home that get 'sexually abused' (a broad definition, as I am including any and all inappropriate sexual behavior) .

This is another reason why I believe fathers should get custody.

Single mothers tend to want to go out. They seem to stop their parental duties at 5 PM on Fridays, and they let anyone watch their kids so they can have a good time. They also bring in step father or boyfriends.

When I spent the night at homes like these, inappropriate things always happened! Sometimes it was that we just weren't supervised very well and could get into trouble ourselves (meet up with guys, drink, smoke, etc), but frequently it was the 'step dad' that did or said inappropriate things. I am still friends with many of these girls today, and throughout the years each of them had confided to me about sexual abuse or rape by their step father or mom's boyfriend. Since I witnessed the inappropriate behavior, I believe it.

I apologize to any good step dad's here at this site. I hate to generalize, but at the same time I am just saying what I know.

If any of you have children that live with step fathers, please be watchful. As I do believe it increases the odds, just like the article suggests.

I don't believe anyone can ward off any type of abuse as well as a watchful biological father.

This is also why I have my ex's 13 year old daughter coming to stay with me this summer as she has a new step father in her home (mom has had a string of boyfriends). I have talked to my ex about this several times through out the years. He is finally starting to listen to me. (I think he might be coming for a visit as well).

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Submitted by Kris on Mon, 2009-03-30 14:36