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Survivor shows that breaking the cycle of violence can be done
Submitted by MR on Thu, 2008-01-03 17:35
Survivor shows that breaking the cycle of violence can be done
This article says, "She wants to empower women she meets through her company and at the domestic violence center."
As this article strongly indicates, men are wasting their time seeking shelter at this taxpayer funded domestic violence shelter. It seves only women.
A more honest title for this article, IMO, would have been, "Survivor shows that breaking the cycle of violence can be done - unless you're a man."
Here is my letter to the editor, and the author (below), at these two emails addresses. I redacted my address and phone number from this post. Feel free to use whatever parts of this post you choose if you choose to send them an email, which I hope you do. It appears they limit publishing of letters to the editor at 150 words.
dnopinion@dailynews.com
jerry.berrios@dailynews.com
"Your article, "Survivor shows that breaking the cycle of violence can be done" is inaccurately and tragically worded for male victims of domestic violence.
If the author had bothered to check he would have seen that men are victims of domestic violence as often as women, with injuries often as serious, because women use knives, guns and other weapons to "level the dominant aggressor" playing field.
http://www.ncfmla.org/dv_data.html
http://www.mediaradar.org/
It is a shame that the some domestic violence shelters brag about how they serve victims of domestic violence, when in fact they sexistly refuse male victims, based on nothing more than the fact they are male. The entire domestic violence industry follows a false, and thereby corrupt, feminist ideological fantasy that all males are powerful Patriarchal oppressors of women, and thereby incapable of being domestic violence victims. How long will this fraud continue to go on at domestic violence shelters, and in the vast majority of the domestic violence industry?"
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big O lies
funny DV should be a topic for discussion. just heard an interesting stat coming fresh outta the big O's magic make up stat's oven.
"every year 10 million u.s. kids witness physical DV against their mothers by their fathers" spake the feminist expert.
let's see. in just a few short years that would make every amerikan child a witness to physical DV? shucks, big O, i didn't know that many fathers were left in the "family home".
oh my goodness - isn't this woman obamma's "BRAIN TRUST"?
and i only paused on this show a few tic's as i was surfing, honest guys, i swear.
It could, and would likely
It could, and would likely be the same kids over and over again. Meaning if 10 million kids each saw it happen for 5 years, that would be, in their book, 50 million kids. I'm not saying the number is right, it's clearly exhaggerated if not a complete fabrication, just saying you don't have to make the number cumulative.
He Made Me?
The entire article and its feminist premise can be summed up in only three words, spoken by the allegedly abused female --
"He made me..."
No girl, he did not.
You CHOSE to be MADE!
(Note her history of loving to be in abusive relationships ... seeking them out.)
The DV Industry is the main social engine of feminism that continues to teach women that they are infants, requiring of course the manufacture of male demon oppressors.
It argues that women are dominated from birth by virtue of their ignorance, not their gender.
If I were female, I would find that very insulting.
Thank gawd Hillary is "going down"...
(Make up your own joke....)
Or maybe she isn't and that's why....
...Bill is trying so hard to get her in the White House. At least we know he was getting some action in there lol!
The question is is the Oprah backed Mr. Obamma any better?
Oh Mama?
My current take on Obama is that he is by virtue of being an almost "blank slate," the best positioned candidate for people to PROJECT whatever they want onto him.
It's hard to be against "hope."
And I truly hope Obama is ready for the media chainsaw massacre that Hillary is about to unleash on him this week.
Did Barack ever date and DTB any white women?
I hope so.
Because as the saying goes, there's "nothing worse than a woman scorned..."
Feminist Math & Women's Ways of Knowing?
NOW Prezodent Kim Gandy slipped up yesterday when she posted on her website that -
"Even here in the U.S., an average of three women are murdered every day by husbands or boyfriends, and an estimated one million to three million women are abused by them."
Given 2007 census data, the population of the U.S. is nearing 304 million, of which 155 million are female. Taking the higher of Ms. Gandy’s estimates for abused women – 3 million – that means that perhaps 2% of women experience abuse.
What happened to the much ballyhooed figure that “1-in-3” women will be abused by their husbands or boyfriends?”
Is there a slight miscalculation between 30% and 2%?
These girls need to hire a credible statistician. Unfortunately, 97.5% of them have a penis attached to a brain.
roy.. someone needs to point
roy.. someone needs to point out to Kim gandy this is matriarchal chaos!!
In 1965, Senator Patrick Moynihan was condemned for his observation of the consequences of family breakdown:
“From the wild Irish slums of the 19th century eastern seaboard, to the riot-torn suburbs of Los Angeles, there is one unmistakable lesson in American history: A community that allows a large number of young men to grow up in broken families, dominated by women, never acquiring any stable relationship to male authority, never acquiring any rational expectations about the future — that community asks for and gets chaos.”
Free Market Samsara
scottkirk,
I'm pretty sure Kim Gandy would take issue with the entire premise --
"A community that allows a large number of young men to grow up in broken families, dominated by women, never acquiring any stable relationship to male authority, never acquiring any rational expectations about the future — that community asks for and gets chaos.”
Mainly because she doesn't give a crap about young men -- the main point of this quote.
NOW would also have some issues with the socially constructed concepts of "broken families," "domination by women," "stable relationships," "rationality," and "chaos."
Feminism is just like "free market" global monopoly capitalism -- it requires destruction in order to create something new ... to destroy ... and re-create.
Samsara.
Look it up.
I agree
Hi I am new here and perhaps out of place? Let me know what you think?
I do not know the author of the article mentioned above, but I am a woman who survived a domestic violent relationship and who did not leave my husband. We are advocates now for women to not leave but to get help. Our guide is a survivors guide that is written primarily for women only because the he/she victim/perpetrator thing was a bit beyond my writing skills when I wrote the guide (and that was my experience). We have many men buy our guide however and we spend a lot of time writing to them and doing all we can to help.
My sister is a serial domestic violence perpetrator and this year, finally, we have helped get her children away from her and reunited and in the care of one father and reconciled and close again with the other while in foster care. It has been a hell that I have endured my whole life experiencing her violence and abuse, seeing what she does to men etc. It has been very difficult for me to get the authorities to take the situation of how vulnerable they have left the father of her little girl who is now in his custody but has been given no warnings or advice about protecting himself from her. I finally met him over Christmas and we let him know how to get the D.V. officer on alert and on his side!
I have two boys and a girl and I knew that I had to solve the problem with my husband without us separating because they need their father, who I also love. In the end it became apparent that his bad behaviour was due largely to his fear of our family disintegrating, as he had experienced that twice with a mother who left relationships at the drop of a hat leaving him completely vulnerable and at the mercy of abusive step fathers. Once he faced this fear and his sadness and grief around loosing his dad (I have encouraged them to get close again, which they have) he has come to be able to trust me that I am not going to do that to him (and never would). We are very happy together now.
My site is at http://www.narcissismcured.com/ and I am more than happy to write to anyone personally if I am able to help. A lot of our customers are men. I don't know how much longer we will be able to keep doing this. It has been very hard spreading the word, if anyone has any ideas please let us know.
Kim.