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Girls and their Frenemies
Submitted by Matt on Sun, 2025-06-15 21:47
Article here. Men need to be aware of the strategies and tactics used by women in terms of relational aggression. They use it against each other and against men. Excerpt:
'Relational aggression is the psychologist’s name for what the rest of us call ‘mean girl’ behaviour, or straight-up ‘bitchiness’. It is a pattern of behaviour typically played out by school-age girls, but it is not exclusive to them. In fact, where do they learn it if not from their adult role models? Adults are just more subtle about it.
Chances are, you’ve experienced relational aggression. You know it when it happens to you. It’s an emotional slap in the face and you often feel a sense of shame and confusion.
What distinguishes relational aggression from just being mean, is that it focuses on damaging a person’s sense of social place. I see it as using relationships as weapons.'
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Men can do this too!
Indeed. Watch out for it from both sexes. Women just are more likely to resort to it first thing.
you're right
Your first comment is spot on - men need to be aware of women's relational aggression. Female relational aggression is far worse than most people realize, and men are its most harmed victims. That's because girls are naturally more adept at both using relational aggression and defending against it; and, they get tons of training throughout childhood. Comparatively, men and boys are at a huge disadvantage. Society refuses to acknowledge female relational aggression, bullying, etc., and especially when males are the victims. So, at present, females have a license to kill, as it were, and males are routinely savaged by them. And it all goes unaddressed. Until society sees female use of relational aggression against males in the same way that we see men's use of physical aggression against females, we are going to continue to be savaged. We need to develop tools to defend ourselves against it.