#NotAllMen, Symptoms Of Male Defensiveness In The Feminist Era

Submitted by Mastodon on Wed, 2024-12-11 14:25

Article here. Excerpt:

'A reader once told me he’s fed up with men being blamed for everything: “We do a lot of things wrong, we need to improve. But it’s unbearable to be singled out for everything and beaten down just for being men. It seems there’s no escape.”

This perception is a reality for many men who feel attacked and, more or less consciously, guilty. What do we do about it? Can we address the situation to achieve a positive reaction? Feeling cornered isn’t the best if we expect reflection and change, nor does it encourage active participation.

Saying “men never do anything at home” or “they are rapists” can be meant to provoke, intentionally or not, but the undesirable reaction is rejection from men and even from other women who feel uncomfortable when they look at the men in their lives (fathers, sons, brothers, friends, partners).

This lays the groundwork for the unfortunate #NotAllMen narrative, which is a form of victimization through reductionist and individualistic differentiation that diverts conversation, invalidates experiences, and questions the universality of harassment and violence faced by many women.'

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Too many of them these days.

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Submitted by Matt on Wed, 2024-12-11 21:24

Notice that often when someone is unfairly accused of something and they legitimately defend themselves, they're accused of being "defensive". This implies that the accuser is automatically right and the accused is automatically wrong.

It's flawed reasoning.

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Submitted by mens_issues on Thu, 2024-12-12 00:03