A Father's Struggle to Stop His Daughter's Adoption
Article here. Excerpt:
'Emanuel’s girlfriend repeatedly promised him that she would never put their child up for adoption. But he couldn’t erase the possibility from his mind. So he posed the question to her, “If you ever had to give your baby up for adoption, you’re going to give it to me, right?” She said she would, but insisted that she had no plans to give the baby away. He says they made plans for her to move in with him permanently at the end of the year.
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After the encounter, Thomason started researching paternity rights on her own. That’s when she learned about the South Carolina Responsible Father Registry, which, according to the state’s Department of Social Services, “gives a man who has fathered a child with a woman he is not married to the right to be notified when an adoption or a termination of parental rights action occurs.” Without the registry, his girlfriend could put the baby up for adoption without telling Emanuel about it. Registering with the state wouldn’t guarantee him custody of Skylar, but at least he’d be notified and have a say in court.
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In the end, this omission was all that mattered. The majority pointed out that the registry had been designed specifically for cases like Lehr’s: to allow biological fathers to “demonstrate [their] intent to claim paternity of a child born out of wedlock,” entitling them “to receive notice of any proceeding to adopt that child.” The Court noted that he could have registered “simply by mailing a postcard.”'
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I must not have submitted
I must not have submitted this correctly. Thanks, Matt, for fixing it for me :)
In the end, he got his
In the end, he got his daughter back as it is illegal for a mother to unilaterally give up a child for adoption. The concerning thing was that no one questioned her lies.
I've said it before and I will say it again. We should not allow birth certificates or adoption procedures to not include a father. We should make father inclusion mandatory (short of genuinely not knowing who the father is) How do we differentiate between a mother genuinely not knowing vs not telling the truth? We ask for details in a sworn statement, we put finalizing the adoption on a longer timeline when no father is listed, we punish/fine adoption agencies who don't perform "due diligence" in finding the father, we punish the mothers if it turns out she lied, etc. I realize there is no fool proof way, but this would be a start.
In this case the mother lied by indicating the father was uninterested in the child. So why did the adoption agency not need his name, so they could investigate themselves as she was obviously indicating that she knew who the father was?
Thankfully this father signed the putative father's registry 3 days before his daughter's adoption was to be finalized.