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Male survivors of sex assaults often fear they won’t be taken seriously
Submitted by Matt on Mon, 2015-06-15 00:49
Article here. Excerpt:
'For all the intensity, emotion and pervasiveness of the debate about sexual assault in college, there’s an element that’s often lost and unheard: men’s stories.
Though sexual assaults on men are rarely reported to authorities, a Washington Post-Kaiser Family Foundation poll of current and recent college students found that 1 in 20 men said they were sexually assaulted while in school.
Some of the incidents were terrifying. Others, like one Episcope described, left the men involved confused, sometimes wondering how they could have lost control.
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By his account, “Suddenly they were like, ‘Drink, drink, drink!’ ” he said. He didn’t have much experience drinking, and he soon found himself hammered. He was drifting in and out of a blackout, he said, when he realized one of the women was having sex with him.
He’s conflicted about what happened, and he kind of laughs it off. “A guy is like, ‘Yes, tie me up, take advantage of me — grab that whip!’ ” For a woman it would be downright scary, he said, then added: “It is kind of scary.”
It was troubling, knowing he hadn’t intended to do it, knowing he couldn’t walk away. But — echoing some other men who had unwanted sexual encounters but also don’t know quite what to make of it all — he said he wasn’t traumatized but was mostly confused. “For me it was like, ‘This really shouldn’t be the way I should be getting some.’ ”
In interviews with men who participated in the poll, they described a wide range of unwanted sexual experiences — some blurry, some violent, some confusing, some terrifying. Some joked about it or blamed themselves. Others are tortured by the memories.'
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tie me up
actually..., and i'm going to admit something you all may find a bit shocking, here.
i am a member of the bondage/S&M community. (yes, you read correctly).
i am involved with what is called "love bondage". this is where my boyfriend ties me up, gags me and then kisses me, gently, gives me a lovely massage and (occasionally) a bit of a spanking. *blushes a bit*
however, i do know some that go the "whips & chains" route. (thanks, but, no thanks, for me.)
it may surprise you to know, that the majority of people into being tied up and/or dominated are not men, but rather women!
the mainstream media, via TV and movies make it seem as if the facts are the other way around. when in reality, it is just not the case.
if you need proof of this, just look at the popularity of the books (and now movie)50 shades of grey. of which i own every copy and have seen the movie 3 times. all this is aimed at women, not men.
this is what most women want. a strong man, who can take "control". despite the fact, i am a strong willed, and stubborn female, (like many of us are)this is what most of us pine for in a man. not the weepy, touchy-feely mangina, you blokes are constantly told we women want.
anyways, we see an endless parade of dominatrixes on TV and in movies, but most men are not, i repeat are not turned on by these women. (other than they dress in a "sexy" manner).
the opposite of the dominatrix is the "dominant" (male equivalent to the dominatrix)or "Master". most dominatrixes are actually found in the lesbian bondage/S&M circles, most dominants are found in the heterosexual bondage/S&M circles. the media doesn't tell you that there is a male equivalent to the dominatrix, because that would be politically incorrect. but there are more dominants than dominatrixes in the world of BDSM.
now, to get to my point (finally) you men have been conditioned to believe this; “A guy is like, ‘Yes, tie me up, take advantage of me — grab that whip!’ ” rubbish.
you are conditioned to believe that if you don't believe in this way, well, then... something is "wrong" with you.
no, there is not.
in fact you are normal if you do not believe this way.
this is another way that a gynocentric society tries to socially engineer people into thinking what they want them too.
therefore men are left thinking after a sexual assault by a woman, "hey, i'm a guy! i'm supposed to want sex any way i can get it, even at the expense of my own self-respect, or even my own humanity. why do i feel so violated then...?"
these men often think there is "something wrong me!" when they feel this way.
the truth is, sexual assault and rape are sexual assault and rape, regardless of one's gender. and they have similar or the same effect on the victim.
whereas women are conditioned (rightly) to know they are the victims of such things, conversely, men are (wrongly) conditioned to believe they cannot be the victims of sexual assault by women.
this is one (among other) reasons men will simply not report or speak out on this issue, if they themselves are victimized by a predatory woman.
and, yes. it is by design.
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In short, Erika...
... you're running about average. But feminists'll never admit it.
To: Matt
no, of course they won't.
doesn't fit their twisted view of what they want "reality" to be.