India: On Women's Day, read the suicide note of a man

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'While the entire country is rejoicing and celebrating Women's Day, an old mother is crying inconsolably in Jhansi. Her son, Avadhesh Yadav committed suicide on February 25, 2015 because of a "woman". This day has no meaning for her as she is confused of the word that means "Women Empowerment". Laws that have been made to protect women, abuse of same became the reason for her son's death.

Here are excerpts from suicide note left by Avadhesh Yadav:

My name is Avadhesh Yadav and I work in a private bank. I got married to Unnati Yadav on December 7, 2012. Within a week of marriage, she started pestering my family by asking divorce for no reason. We ignored. She never allowed me to come close to her for 2-3 months after the marriage. My father advised that with time everything will be fine. But it got only worse. She started misbehaving with my parents, hurling abuses at them. When we complained about this to her family, they gave excuses of some "external influence" on her and they would get her treated. She now started going almost every day at her home and threatened us of a dowry case if we said anything.
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On advice of lawyers, we filed a case of restitution of conjugal rights, requesting her to come back. Three months after that in September, she filed a false dowry and domestic violence case (498A) on me, my mother, father, elder brother and his wife. We got bail. Her brother told me she wants to come back.

I refused saying now this was not possible and suggested that we get separated amicably. He refused and threatened me of false cases of molestation, rape on my father and brother and, acid attack on me and getting me killed. Unnati eventually filed a case of molestation in January on my father and brother and they were arrested. I don't know what will this step of mine lead to but I want to save my family from all this humiliation. After I go, they would probably be in peace. I also wish to ask our law makers, how they can make laws that give so much credence to mere words of a woman that whatever the other person is saying has no relevance. Shouldn't the other side be heard too? My father and brother were picked up by police on her statement alone without any evidence.
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As a woman, this women's day I beg to ask my fellow women - Is this why we demanded stringent laws? Is this what we mean by women empowerment that a woman can ruin anyone's life if she wants? Isn't a mother-in-law tortured by her daughter-in-law a woman? Would we ever get rid of crime against women if women start using laws as weapons and our courts get choked with false cases? Is it empowerment that a woman plays gender card and settle scores with whosoever she wants? False cases of crime against women should concern women rights activists because it hurts their cause the most. False cases are no less a crime against actual victims of these crimes. "If cry of wolf is made too often, assistance might not come when actual wolf appears."

As a woman, this women's day, I also request media to at least make an effort to know the other side of the story, know the truth before reporting it. First a false case and then your name splashed all over media in that case does irreparable damage to a person. Report acquittal with as much fervour as you report an accusation! '

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Following is commentary with the note MANN received drawing attention to this tragic story:

The NCRB (National Crime Records Bureau) of India's data reveals that every 9 minutes in India, a married man commits suicide. WHO already says that India is number 1 when it comes to men's suicide rate (90,000/annum, including 64,000 married men).

The major reason is "Family Problems" (25.6%) according to these statistics. NCRB doesn't clearly write how a man can commit suicide due to "Family Problems". In most cases threat of 498a has been enough to make a man commit suicide even before case goes to the court. But no data is collected deliberately for any crime against men within the family facing domestic violence or facing the threat of 498a.

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