How would you feel if your husband said this about you?

Submitted by Mastodon on Sat, 2015-02-07 18:03

Article here. Excerpt:

'I was with a group of friends the other day when the discussion turned to our husbands. I held my breath and waited for someone to say my least favorite saying in the entire world.

Yep, someone said, "Oh, I have four kids — my three girls and my husband." Ugh. It supposed to sound cute, but it doesn't. It sounds condescending.

Women need their friends in a very real but very different way than men need their friends. We use girl time to talk through our problems and make sense of what's going on in our lives, but too often conversations dissolve into "man bashing." We see it as harmless joking at our husbands' expense. No big deal, right?

Let's turn the tables for a second and imagine this scenario. Picture your husband sitting around talking with his friends. This is what they say.
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Husband: "We went on a picnic as a family. It was crazy, though. I had to get everyone ready because my wife was primping in the bathroom forever. She's so scattered sometimes. I wish she'd help out more. I feel like everything is my responsibility the second I get home from work. I mean, come on, the house is a wreck, and... "

I could go on, but I think you can fill in the blanks. Now, imagine you knew your husband said this about you. You'd probably kill him. I mean, how dare he talk about you like that to someone else? That's completely unacceptable.

Except, ladies, we do this all the time. I think we let ourselves off the hook because we're more social. We like to talk, and we can look cute and jokey without coming off like jerks. That doesn't make it OK, however.
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I love my husband so much! He's an amazing father, and I appreciate the effort he puts into providing for our family. I'm not afraid of sending that message out into the world. After all, I chose him. His good nature reflects my good taste. Think about that the next time you're chatting with your girlfriends.'

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"You'd probably kill him?" Kind of ironic to see that statement in this article. I wonder how it would go down if you flipped the genders here. Oh that's right, it's OK when women talk like that.

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Submitted by mens_issues on Sun, 2015-02-08 16:00

Anybody who thinks that women are valued less than men in this society need only listen to the casual speech of a handful of women re: men. It's amazing how easy it is to hear jokes about domestic violence, and killing men, peppered with comments of how stupid and useless they are.

By the way, that whole "my husband is a child" joke is so old, and so not funny. Most of the time the woman saying it is financially supported by her husband, so when I hear a quip like that, I reply with, "a child is a dependant. You are dependant on your husband, so who's the real child here?"

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Submitted by xtrnl on Sun, 2015-02-08 22:37

"You'd probably kill her...": would a male writer dare write that way, even in the same figurative sense she is using here? Nope. Fem-bots'd automatically rain terror on the guy. One of many expressive 2x-stds vs. men that exist. That is merely one small example.

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Submitted by Matt on Mon, 2015-02-09 00:43