Shocker: Yes, we need fathers, and no, this is not single-mother or gay-parent bashing

Submitted by Mastodon on Sun, 2014-06-15 23:29

Article here. Excerpt:

'Co-hosts of ABC talk show “The View” jumped all over guest co-host Terry Crews on Friday, when he said that there are some things only a father can teach his children.

Well, with the exception of Sherri Shepherd, that is. Whoopi Goldberg and Jenny McCarthy both tried to shut down his argument for fathers, saying a single mother can give her children anything a father can.

I hate to say it, but one of our glaring faults as women is we do not always listen, for we are too busy hearing what we want to hear to quickly go for the jugular.

We say we want men to open up, tell us how they feel, but most times what we really want is for our men to agree with us -- or, as comedian/actor Bill Cosby put it, we don’t want to hear what men think, we want to hear what we think in a deeper voice.

The women were so busy being defensive, they missed Crews’ point. Yes, I get the fierce passion of single women who do it all, only to be told by some that their children won’t turn out right because they don’t have a man in the home or, as conservatives label it, have a “traditional family.”
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There is a day to recognize the invaluable contributions made by all mothers—single, married or in relationships—and that is Mother’s Day.

Let fathers have their day and stop telling them they are irrelevant.

By the way: A very Happy Father’s Day to all the fathers co-parenting in marriages, apart, in same-sex relationships or doing it on their own.'

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And it seems some people just cannot figure out why so many men are not the least bit interested in becoming fathers!

Just watch The View's "ladies" in action. That's all you need to see. Imagine if one of them were the mother of your children. (Try not to hurl.) Now imagine that you're a 22-year-old man who has been seeing The View and shows like it here and there all the while you were growing up. Would paternity appeal to you in the least? Hell, no.

And after hearing about how your uncle Fred got destroyed in family court, and also his friend Ned, and also your friend's dad, and maybe also your dad, as if you needed further disincentive to reproduce, you have The View's "ladies" descending on anything male with all talons extended should he have the temerity to say anything that may be pro-male or pro-father.

American society has become an ad for sterility, at least from the male POV. We have a 1.9 child/woman repro. rate in the U.S. Sociologists are scratching their heads, wondering why. MRAs aren't wondering why. We know why. The question shouldn't be "Why is the rate only at 1.9?"; it ought to be "Why is the rate as high as it is, at 1.9?"

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Submitted by Matt on Mon, 2014-06-16 07:15

Jenny McCarthy is letting her emotions and cognitive dissonance get the best of her. She feels she has to defend single motherhood because that it was she is. And if she thinks back about what has led up to her single motherhood, it is all the things which feminists promote. If single mother hood is bad, then feminism is bad as well. That's too much for her to admit to. She feels personally attacked and wants to shut this guy down by providing anecdotal "proof" that indicates mothers can provide everything. Men raised by single mothers often have the similar attitude and willingly become absent fathers. Single motherhood is a cycle.

BTW- I think Jenny McCarthy publicly shamed her ex, Jim Carrey, for not staying in contact with her young son after they split. She indicated it has caused her son emotional harm. So isn't that a pitfall of single parenthood? And if she believes mothers can fill any emotional void, then isn't this contradictory?

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Submitted by Kris on Tue, 2014-06-17 00:05

It's too bad in today's world you can't say fathers are good without implying single mothers or gay parents are bad.

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Submitted by el cid on Wed, 2014-06-18 20:19