Why Should Fluid Sexuality Be Women-Only?

Submitted by Matt on Mon, 2014-01-06 04:31

Article here. Excerpt:

'By now, there’s an established celebrity “coming out” narrative. You sit down with a morning talk-show host or write a blog post saying that you’re in love with someone who shares your gender. Your true fans profess their continued devotion, LGBT rights groups and opinion writers applaud you, and while you’ll get some hate mail, most people are relieved to finally have you “figured out” — especially if your sexuality has been the subject of tabloid speculation.

This doesn't quite apply, however, when you reveal you’re dating a man but insist you’re still attracted to women. “Of course I still fancy girls,” said British diver Tom Daley last week. “But, I mean, right now I’m dating a guy and I couldn’t be happier.” There were some standard-issue homophobic reactions (which Buzzfeed and HuffPost obligingly collected), but Daley also elicited a more specific sort of disapproval from certain fans — biphobia, the Advocate called it. These were the people who assumed Daley was gay but unable to fully admit it, or unwilling to relinquish the privileges of being straight. ...
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When coming out as not-totally-heterosexual, the rules are different for men and women. Perhaps this is because we’ve had plenty of cultural cues — like chart-topping hit songs about girls kissing girls — and academic research to acclimate us to the idea of women’s fluid sexuality.
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Securing broad public approval for concrete rights like gay marriage is one thing, but ending pervasive cultural homophobia is quite a bit trickier. And sometimes those goals can seem at odds. It’s hard to fight for the right to be openly gay — to argue that homosexuality is not a phase or a choice — while simultaneously acknowledging the people whose experiences defy easy categorization. But as gay rights slowly become mainstream, there’s more room for not just women, but men, to proudly claim their undefinable sexual histories....'

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Yes, the dbl-standard around this topic has been observed for a long time, perhaps since pre-recorded history. The only reason I can think for where it may have come from is simply this: women can have sex with each other and it has no effect on their imminent ability to become pregnant. So if a woman is in the general habit of having sex with other women, she can still get pregnant at any time just by having sex with men. And once she becomes pregnant, further having sex with men while she is pregnant has no effect at all on her fecundity, since she is already pregnant.

Men on the other hand have to not just have sex with women for women to become pregnant, but they need to do so repeatedly. The less semen a man has to put into women's bodies, the less chance they will become pregnant.

In short, when considering tribal survival under conditions where there is safety in numbers, getting and keeping the females of child-bearing age pregnant was critical. The tribe's women could have sex with each other (so long as they also did with men) and tribal fecundity would go unaffected; not quite so much with the men of the tribe.

This is if course a SWAG theory. Undoubtedly, the cause is certain to be a bit more complicated, but fecundity must be a factor in there somewhere.

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Submitted by Matt on Mon, 2014-01-06 05:13

I appreciate your SWAG Matt.

I see it a bit more through the lens of social enforcement of men's slavery to women's desires. Women, and the white knights that do whatever women want, can't allow men to have sexual fun without women, because sexuality is after all the major leverage tool that women have to convince men to commit to marriage and kids. To allow males to have homosexual or bisexual freedom would be tantamount to endorsing MGTOW, and we can't let the slaves do whatever they want, because they might get ideas about leaving the plantation. Women and the white knights don't want men to have that freedom because then men might decide that they do not wish to be in service to women. So all male expressions of sexuality besides heterosexual expressions are condemned by society, in order to funnel men into the provider-protector-husband-father-worker-slave track.

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Submitted by redwoodwriter on Mon, 2014-01-06 19:40