Husbands in the UK 'must admit they watch porn' to their wives, UK Prime Minister David Cameron says

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2507752/Over-half-women-regularly-watch-porn-daring-40-admit-making-own.html

'More frequently thought of as a naughty pleasure for men – or obsession for adolescent boys - porn has traditionally been a taboo subject for women.
However it seems that behind closed doors more women than expected are indulging in pornography.

A new survey reveals that over half of women (55 per cent) watch videos with sexual content on their own at least once a month – with a further 40 per cent admitting to switching it on weekly.'

Notice how "everybody" thinks its so terrible that men watch porn. These judgmental people are simply demonizing male sexuality in order to control men. Nobody publicly says they are the least bit concerned about 50 Shades of Grey, which is female porn. Not only that, it's basically child porn. But it's OK, because it's text, and not pictures. Men like pictures, women like text. So porn is bad, but even kiddie porn text in the form of 50 Shades is just fine with everyone. Even better, a woman wrote it, so you go girl. Reverse sexism big time here.

The title is misleading. Unless I missed it I don't think the title is a direct quote from the Prime Minister. The policy will be that those who pay the bill, will choose to allow porn or not as part of their purchase. I think people are probably more concerned about their children's access then they are about their partner's access. The policy is the same for men and women.

I see it as allowing more customer control which is a good thing. People who pay the bill should get a choice in what they want or don't want.

However, I am sort of on the fence because I realize there are other ways to control content. For example my cable company has "parental controls" and I can block TV shows and movies based on title, channel or rating, Soon I am sure technology will get more specific to allow different access on different devises within the house (maybe you can already do this).

So I find the dilemma to be between consumer rights to choose what is allowed into their homes, and the risk of outing a partner who may be watching porn against the other partner's wishes.

*edited to clarify

May I offer a rephrasing of your argument to elicit the double standard more clearly?

Men are more visually stimulated then women and women are more verbally stimulated than men. Some say this is based in brain function and others say it is nurtured. But those arguments do not change what is. At this time, these are facts and observations.

"Porn" is how we define IMAGES for MEN that objectify WOMEN by exaggerating SEX.
"Romance" is how we define WORDS for WOMEN that objectify MEN by exaggerating LOVE.

We take the former, wrap it in cellophane, put it at the back of the store and say "bad boy" to all our young boys. And this begins the birth of guilt and denial that leads to perversion.

Meanwhile, girls are free to indulge in Harlequin novels and knights on white horses and other forms of delusion.

Let me give three examples...

First, as you know, many schools in the UK have banned Robin Thicke's "Blurred Lines." In the video, a clothed man pursues near naked women, sexually. Now, take a look at the video for "Call me, Maybe." In that video a clothed woman pursues a near naked man, imagines him as knight on a white horse, and even fakes her own accident to manipulate him. And there is no banning of that "romance porn."

In my own life, many years ago, when I was a doctoral student, I had to go to the administration offices, staffed mostly by women. And I saw romance novels littering the desks. A few women did came on to me. It made me uncomfortable. But could you imagine bannning romance novels from campuses the way we ban posters of women? It would never happen and it reeks of a double standard.

Let me get personal now... There was a period in my marriage when my sex drive diminished. And I started to look at porn images. I was not interested in the excessive porn (and do not judge those who indulge in it). I was interested in a specific type of porn: porn in which women loved men. (Remember, I was on an American Academic campus in which men are the enemy, and men are bad and no one likes men.) The porn had to be well made, clear images, beautiful bodies with expressions of love infused into the sex. I would watch it now and then over the course of a few months (this is going back about five years). And then the images converged in my head and merged with my vision of myself and my wife. In short time, I stopped looking and have not looked at porn for about four years now. It served a purpose. It re-aligned my sex life with my wife and all has been smooth, exciting,sexual and loving for the last four years (and this from a 55 year old man not taking viagra). I never told my wife I did this. I needed to do it quietly and on my own until my thoughts and feelings and impulses got realigned.

I am very concerned that this law will succeed and will be brought to the U.S. If you are in the U.K., please try to stop it. It will only make some men feel guilty and pain, create more perversive porn and prevent men from learning how to fix themselves. It will indirectly empower love-based intimacy over sex-based intimacy --- and I think BOTH are important and should be in balance.

(I also think that if the law is passed, it will not prevent men from looking at porn. It will just drive the porn arena further into the darkness. It will infuse some more men with guilt as they worship the matriarchy. It will create more perverse expressions of objectification and cripple more men.)