"Feminism doesn’t demand the end of masculinity"

Article here. Excerpt:

'One of my first thoughts when I started liberal arts college was: Where are all the dudes? In high school, they whistled at me in the hall. They blasted Jay-Z from their cars. They wore tank tops to showcase their biceps.

On campus I felt like I had fallen down a rabbit hole and ended up in no man’s land: guys wore tie-dye onesies, had shaggy hair and preferred to smoke pot rather than funnel beer. Most disappointing was that they didn’t seem at all interested in my pink spandex jumpsuit and high ponytail. No, Toto, I wasn’t in a Freddie Prinze Jr. movie anymore.

My university was where masculinity went to die.

In high school, this species of men was easy to ignore. Like experimental cells, they were confined to the petri dishes of drama clubs and debate teams, a clear mutation of manliness.
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Just look at our school system for a taste of modern society’s values. North America regards the trades — the bread and butter of traditional masculinity — as the ugly duckling of education. If you’re not into textbooks, lab coats or blazers you’re considered less than worthy.
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Though I’ve ditched the pink jumpsuit and high ponytail, I still appreciate dudeness. Especially when the masculine desire to “provide” results in a cooked meal after a long day at work. As a feminist, I’m totally cool with a man who can fix my sink, especially when I can sit in the other room and write.'