Dad ‘unfit parent for refusing son McDonald’s’

Submitted by Matt on Fri, 2013-11-08 18:44

Story here. Excerpt:

'Attorney David Schorr slapped a court-appointed shrink with a defamation lawsuit for telling the judge deciding a custody battle with his estranged wife that he was an unfit parent — for refusing to take his son to the fast food joint for dinner.

“You’d think it was sexual molestation,” Schorr, 43, told The Post Thursday. “I am just floored by it.”

Schorr says in his Manhattan Supreme Court suit that E. 97th Street psychiatrist Marilyn Schiller filed a report saying he was “wholly incapable of taking care of his son” and should be denied his weekend visitation over the greasy burger ban.
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“I wish I had taken him to McDonalds, but you get nervous about rewarding bad behavior. I was concerned. I think it was a 1950s equivalent of sending your child to bed without dinner. That’s maybe the worst thing you can say about it,” he said.

Adding insult to injury, he said: “My wife immediately took him to McDonalds.”

Upon reflection, Schorr said he should have remembered that mother knows best.
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"Even my mother, the strictest mother in the world, said, ‘Why didn’t you just take him to McDonalds? What were you thinking? You know that this is a divorce situation.’”'

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The lesson for the kid is he can get what he wants by playing mom and dad off on each other. Mom is also moving ahead full-tilt making sure the kid sees dad as the "meanie".

When I was a kid, I got told "no" a lot, sometimes just to teach me I can't have whatever I want. My folks maintained a united front, too. Outcome: Last tantrum I threw, I was in the single digits.

Divorce may be inevitable for some couples. But sticking with a united disciplinary front and avoiding alienating behavior around your ex will be good for *everyone*. Strikes me this guy's soon-to-be ex doesn't get that.

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Submitted by Matt on Fri, 2013-11-08 18:52

Unfortunately, had he actually taken his kid to McDonalds, the same thing could have happened. It's a lose lose for men in custody battles

http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/government-tyranny/missing-anya/

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Submitted by Kratch on Sat, 2013-11-09 17:04

Sounds like the divorce has been going on for two and a half years and now there is a shrink involved. What a mess, and shame on our legal system for allowing things to get like this, I guess that's how those working in the legal system guarantee their employment and paychecks.

The only problem I see with what the dad did is that he was punishing the child, but then taking the punished child back over to the mom where SHE would have to enforce the punishment that HE inflicted. The child would have been hungry and irritable, and probably asking the mother for food to satisfy his hunger. This type of punishment would have been better on a night that the child was staying with the father, so he could see the punishment out until the end...But hind site is always 20/20, and it sounds like the dad wished he had handled it differently. We all have parenting moments that we wished we handled differently.

I understand the "united front" but in divorce you don't always get that and you can't control the other parent. This impacts both parent's style as they will need to understand that their forms of punishments need to be in a way that does not make more work for the other parent, and therefore choose their battles wisely. Hopefully for bigger issues, they will be more united, but if not, then this highlights my concerns about 50/50 custody, as it will be impossible to discipline children, and in these types of cases probably best if one parent has more control.

And, IMO, the psychologist was dishonest or professionally negligent when she told the court the father was "wholly incapable of taking care of his son"

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Submitted by Kris on Sat, 2013-11-09 19:37