Child Support: Enslaving Black Men

Submitted by Anonymous on Thu, 2012-05-17 21:32

Article here. Excerpt:

'Last week, on my facebook page, A Sister asked me if I am “for” or “against” child support. I posted a picture, of a Black woman holding a wheelbarrow full of money, and the words above the picture said “Child Support, Way Better Than A Dad”, then I proceeded to answer the question. What I am “for” is choosing wisely when deciding to reproduce and deciding who will reproduce you. What I am “for” is adults being mature if the relationship ends so that the child won’t suffer, become molded in the bitterness of its mother, and caught in an emotional tug of war. What I am “against” is women hustling their wombs SPECIFICALLY for the sole purpose of collecting a child support check. What I am “against” is child support being limited or perceived as just financial assistance. Child support means to support your child mentally, emotionally, spiritually, being there for events, listening to them, encouraging them, showing them love and teaching them lessons so they won’t have to learn lessons in the streets.

What I am “against” is Black Men not even given a chance to WILLINGLY give, contribute and add to the life of their child or children, before the Mother of his child (or children) runs down to the overseer to handcuff him with a child support order. I am “against” Brothers being violated in such a system that was designed to destroy the Black Family and children being treated as assets and property of the Mother, with no regard to the Father.
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Again there are so many options for Single Mothers, but for a Single Man there are limited options. He will hear BE A MAN ABOUT IT! As if he is attempting to be anything else. Sometimes as women, I think that we have become desensitized to the pain and struggles that our Brothers go through. Now with MOST men, do you think they WANT to be shiftless? Do you think that not being able to provide for their family REALLY makes them feel good? Do you think that for most MEN being labeled as a dead beat dad is something they proudly wear like a badge of honor? I mean, let’s step out of our stilettos, and try to slide our feet into his shoes.'

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This article applies to all men, not just black ones. And also please note, this article was written by a woman. Check out this one comment; hooray to it, I say! http://thyblackman.com/2012/05/17/child-support-enslaving-black-men/comment-page-1/#comment-23931

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Submitted by Matt on Fri, 2012-05-18 01:48

She brings up a great point about public housing and child support. An intact couple cannot share public housing with their combined income, but a woman can live there by herself and collect child support even though, on the whole, the broken-apart couple has the same overall income. The only thing that happens is that children are deprived of a father while public resources get used ineffectively. The housing needs of families in poverty effectively double - public housing for the woman and children and private housing or a shelter, half way house, jail, or cardboard box for the man. It would cost our society far less if we could provide a place to live for an entire family and work with them to get out of poverty, instead of ensuring that they stay there for generations.

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Submitted by dungone on Fri, 2012-05-18 16:45

Public assistance of any kind needs to be provided in a way that encourages the development of an intact family--mom, dad, kids--as opposed to only mom and the kids.

Second, many of the problems we discuss could be said to affect black men more than white men. It's basically where the problems regarding child support began, because congress critters wanted black men to start paying back welfare. The idea can be traced back to Russell Long--brother of Huey--of Louisiana.

Natalie gets everything right. If we are going to given women rights and "evolve" out of marriage, eventually men will have the right to say "no" to fatherhood. Which means women will be left on their own, except for men who voluntarily take on the responsibilities of fatherhood, which they won't if it means going to jail if they lose their job. No one would voluntarily accept many of the current policies; that is why they are forced upon us by the government. But force only work for so long.

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Submitted by el cid on Sat, 2012-05-19 13:20