Canada: The talk you must have with your teenage son

Submitted by Anonymous on Mon, 2010-03-22 22:26

Article here. A clinical psychologist and parenting guru spreading false stereotypes in a national newspaper. Excerpt:

'I've written about how to talk to teenage sons about responsible sexual behaviour – being considerate, always, of the wants and feelings of a potential sex partner.

But there's another talk you should have with your son: It is about abuse.

Many teenage boys – it has probably always been so – are abusive to their girlfriends. Most are not, but many are. How can you know whether your teenage son is abusive, or potentially abusive, with women? You can't.

That's why it's important for you to talk outright with your son – about what constitutes abuse, and why such behaviours are flat-out wrong. Many of the behaviours that I will list seem obvious. But most boys who abuse their girlfriends either do not think that what they are doing is abuse or think that it's somehow justified.
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Many boys abuse their girlfriends. I'm not saying that I think you will or that you do. But many boys abuse girls, and I want you to know clearly what abuse is. All the things that I'm about to talk about are abuse and are not acceptable under any circumstances. It's a pretty big list, but you must not do any of these things.

You can't grab a girl hard, ever.

Never hit a girl.

If a girl gets physical with you – either hitting or kicking or threatening you with physical harm – leave right away. Hitting a girl in self-defense is not okay. Leave.

If you are in an argument and are mad and you get very close to a girl, you must back away. An in-your-face angry guy is often genuinely scary, even though you may know that you will do nothing physical.'

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Author's email is awolf-at-globeandmail.com

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'I've written about how to talk to teenage daughters about responsible sexual behaviour – being considerate, always, of the wants and feelings of a potential sex partner.

But there's another talk you should have with your daughter: It is about abuse.

Many teenage daughters – it has probably always been so – are abusive to their boyfriends. Most are not, but many are. How can you know whether your teenage daughter is abusive, or potentially abusive, with men? You can't.

That's why it's important for you to talk outright with your daughter– about what constitutes abuse, and why such behaviours are flat-out wrong. Many of the behaviours that I will list seem obvious. But most girls who abuse their boyfriends either do not think that what they are doing is abuse or think that it's somehow justified.
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Many girls abuse their boyfriends. I'm not saying that I think you will or that you do. But many girls abuse boys, and I want you to know clearly what abuse is. All the things that I'm about to talk about are abuse and are not acceptable under any circumstances. It's a pretty big list, but you must not do any of these things.

You can't grab a boy hard, ever.

Never hit a boy.

If a boy gets physical with you – either hitting or kicking or threatening you with physical harm – leave right away. Hitting a boy in self-defense is not okay. Leave.

If you are in an argument and are mad and you get very close to a boy, you must back away. An in-your-face angry girls is often genuinely scary, even though you may know that you will do nothing physical.'

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Submitted by Matt on Tue, 2010-03-23 15:42

"These abusive behaviours are just as forbidden when she is being abusive herself."

In other words, abuse by girls okay, abuse by boys not okay. May he rot eternally in a feminist hell.

My email to this bag of slime...

This entire article is an act of abuse against boys. You are a disgusting excuse for a human being,
may you get cancer and die slowly.

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Rise, Rebel, Resist.

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Submitted by MichaelClaymore on Tue, 2010-03-23 16:00

manonthestreet

I endorse the above comment. I also think all this is just so much fantasy. Look we were all teenagers and the idea that we did anything unpleasant to our girlfriend was just laughable. Just getting one was a struggle.We went to great lengths to try to pleased them in every way we could. More fool us!

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Submitted by trotter on Tue, 2010-03-23 19:16

The majority of posts in the comments section are from men AND women who find Wolf's message gender-specific and sexist.

Men's Rights + Women's Rights = HUMAN Rights

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Submitted by Boy Genteel on Wed, 2010-03-24 05:08