Prominent author addresses 'Why Men Cheat'

Submitted by anthony on Thu, 2009-12-17 20:24

Article here. Excerpt:

'It seems crazy the amount of media attention Tiger Woods' alleged infidelity has received, especially when you consider the fact that Tiger is not alone in his indiscretions. Prevalence aside, it's always a major blow to the person who has been deceived. Tiger's wife is undoubtedly in this boat, as are millions of his fans left shocked by his behavior. The Woods scandal has occupied dinner table conversations around the country, and has once again forced us to re-evaluate the state of marriage today. Why do people cheat? What can you do to prevent it? And how can you move on if it happens to you? We spoke with M. Gary Neuman, rabbi, marriage counselor and author of The Truth About Cheating, who through his research gave insight on how to keep a healthy marriage.

Let's get down to it: Why do men cheat?
I can tell you why men don't cheat. It's usually not because of sex: Only 8 percent of men who cheat said it was because of sexual dissatisfaction. Rather, 48 percent of men who have cheated said it was because of emotional dissatisfaction. Mens' egos are not as strong as they think, and therefore, they are highly susceptible to someone serving them up admiration outside the marriage, especially when the man is not properly connected with his wife. It often starts as emotional infidelity, where he will use a relationship outside the marriage to satisfy an emotional void.'

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I am sure Rabbi-Dr. Neuman means well. However is he doing even a small bit of research into female infidelity? I am amazed time and again how prominent social scientists who seem utterly devoid of a political agenda are as moved and blinded by societal prejudices as anyone else. I guess it's this: unless someone can even imagine the kind of cheating women can do and most definitely do, one may not even be able to see it. After all, no one "saw" radiation as we understand it until we imagined such a thing could exist. After that, physics was never the same. But reality had been the same as it ever was all along.

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Submitted by Matt on Fri, 2009-12-18 06:32

Men cheat because there is something wrong with them. Women have affairs (not "cheat") because they are driven to it by men, who have something wrong with them.

See how easy it is when you phrase things correctly?

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Submitted by TomP on Fri, 2009-12-18 16:00

it goes something like this: if you are a single guy, the best thing about having
an affair with a married woman is that she wants the same things as you - i'll explain.

everybody gets want they want, great hot sex.
get in, get out - no commitment,
and she's not going to talk about it. so the
guy remains very available for other women.
doesn't show up uninvited. it's exciting, slipping around.
they usually don't want to hang around too long either.
frees guys up for other important stuff,
like hunting, fishing, poker, sports, etc. guy stuff.
and if she gets prego, well, that's what husbands are for. no inlaws. no constant $$$ outlays. total freedom. many even spend big bucks on gifts for BFs. and i have heard that
many times they will do things with boyfriends they
won't do with husbands, sex wise.

very much unlike the typical single gal.
heck, single and married women discuss EVERYTHING about
sex with BF/husbands with their friends. size, style,
needs, everything.

like they say, she wants the same things you do,
so i've heard. a lot of this fits married guys too.
it's just that when he gets caught, he loses his world.
not so much married women, huh?

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Submitted by daveinga on Fri, 2009-12-18 22:44

my saying..

dont cheat women
otherwise u`ll be cheat by a gay:d
hahaha
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Submitted by msjone on Tue, 2010-02-23 09:19