'What makes a good man? In a new book, a range of men weigh in'

Submitted by anthony on Fri, 2009-12-04 04:24

Article here. Excerpt:

'His story is a cautionary tale, Matlack says, and it's one he shares in a new book, "The Good Men Project: Real Stories from the Frontline of Modern Manhood," (The Good Men Foundation, Boston), a series of essays by Matlack and 30 other men, who bare their foibles - and their souls - in heartfelt musings about their experiences as fathers, sons, husbands, fathers and workers.
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"Men generally have not talked about this. Women, with their more advanced emotional vocabulary, are better at it," he said. "I don't want to scare men off - they're not going to end up on Oprah Winfrey's couch - but, if you talk about what it's like to be in Sing Sing, in Iraq, guys sit up and take notice. It's liberating to figure out what's important. Stop being silent about this.
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"That's what has happened to men. They don't have the ability to tell the truth. Look at [Bernard] Madoff, at [David] Letterman; you can name 100 men who don't know how to tell the truth," Matlack said. "That's what happened to me. I was unable to tell my own truth.

"Men are in pain. We need to crack things wide open and say, ‘Let's stop fooling ourselves. Lets not be Don Draper. Let's talk about what's important.' That sea change is a very powerful, exciting thing."'

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Here is a simple truth. Men in Western culture are not permitted to express their true feelings. No one likes a man who admits to having emotional pain or expresses his feelings openly. It makes for a good slave mentality.
After all someone has to do the dirty jobs and support the feminists aristocracy.

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Submitted by Luek on Sat, 2009-12-05 16:20

manonthestreet

Am I wrong but have not men been very eloquent at expressing emotions in the past. Where did the great poetry and music come form? It came from men. And the great works of literature all came from men.They weren't writing instruction manuals but works of transcendent emotional depth.

But it could be that something has been lost. I wonder if at sometime in the future this time will be looked at as a dark age.

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Submitted by trotter on Sat, 2009-12-05 19:03

This is kind of like forcing men to 'grieve' the same way that women do - it does not feel natural to men, and makes them uncomfortable. The simple fact is that men respond to, and deal with, things differently than women. Neither way is better or worse than the other, but the problem is that society has decided that "women's ways" are better, so these ways are being forced upon men (and boys).

What we have here is simply a group of men who have fallen for the propaganda.

-ax

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Submitted by axolotl on Sun, 2009-12-06 04:31

Shouldn't these guys be asking, what makes a good woman?

-ax

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Submitted by axolotl on Mon, 2009-12-07 08:01