Young "feminist" has problem dating feminist man

Submitted by Matt on Sat, 2009-07-25 17:50

I just laughed when I saw this. Excerpt:

'I am a feminist. And yet, like many third-wavers, I cherry-pick my battles — no to Howard Stern and the C word, yes to depilation and miniskirts. But since I started dating a guy who could decry the patriarchal paradigm as fluently as I could, I was forced to admit that I hadn't exactly been walking the feminist walk in my kitten heels, especially where romance was concerned. Probably because I, like most girls — er, women — have always wanted to be treated "like a lady" — given gifts and compliments, whisked away for romantic weekends.
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Still, while he'll never be the guy who "takes" me out to dinner, he gets it: He noticed the sexist treatment Hillary Clinton received during the '08 campaign before I did; I never have to explain to him why a cleavage-laden ad for, say, toothpaste is annoying; he asks for my opinion and takes it into account; and he supports me in my choices. He's still a guy — playing handyman with door latches and fixing my temperamental PC. And once we're in the bedroom, all politics go out the window.'

And she says she's a "feminist". LMAO!

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Maybe she should date an MRA. :-)

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Submitted by anthony on Sat, 2009-07-25 20:54

I doubt that any of us could stand her for more than 10 minutes.

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Down on your knees, And thank heaven, fasting,
For a good man's love.

Shakespeare, As You Like It III, 5

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Submitted by Belgorod on Sun, 2009-07-26 07:39

Like many supposed feminists these days, she appears to be a blended caricature of a traditional woman and a radical feminist.

It sounds to me that the problem that started out having no name, still doesn't know a d@#% thing, but shows no sign of ending complaints. I pity the young men who have these kind of women as prospective dates.

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Submitted by MR on Sun, 2009-07-26 17:48

This girl is confused. Girls get mixed messages, and have no idea of the definition of 'feminism' as many think it is simple term for acknowledging women and their capabilities beyond taking care of the house and kids (nothing wrong with that).

In my view feminism is not so much about equal rights, but is more about equalizing the playing field at the expense of others or by falsely ignoring the physical and biological traits of each gender. The extreme feminist demand that every women turn away from traditional roles or else take the blame for the 'oppression' of women. Being on a professional dance team (aka cheerleader) and then choosing to be a young mom, I have felt the wrath of feminism for many years.

I am all for equal rights, but laws and rules must be the same for everyone to truly be equal. For example, I do not believe women should be allowed to join the fire department unless they can pass the same physical requirements as the men are expected to pass (this goes for other occupations as well), Otherwise we are giving females 'equal opportunity' to join the fire department, but we are taking away a spot from a better qualified person and we are impacting the safety by having less qualified people serving the community. I do not see how this 'equal opportunity' benefits anyone.

As far as dating and personal appearance choices (a female choosing to wear make-up, short skirts etc). I am inclined to believe that nature and biology play a role in this. It is my opinion that guys have been attracted to women for certain physically qualities and traits, so I feel it is only human nature for a female to try to show off such things. You see this in the animal world as well.

If we ditched traditional gender roles and shamed women for wearing heels, make up, etc just think of how unisex and gender-neutral the world would look. It is not the world I would want to live in, which is why I make no apologies for wearing heels, shopping at Victoria's Secret etc. and wanting a guy to fill the tradition male role when it comes to dating. I also don't think men should be shamed for looking at girls in Playboy or showing desire for sexy girls. I chalk it all up to human nature.

I think this girl needs to define 'feminist' and she may find that she isn't one after all. She also may have to give up a few ideals as she cannot have it both ways. She may come to realize that Hillary Clinton lost the election fair and square, and that the sexy adds work because of human nature (referring to her distaste for cleavage bearing adds).

I am all for equal RESPECT when it comes to the two genders, but I think the differences were put in place by nature and things always get screwed up when you mess with nature.

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Submitted by Kris on Mon, 2009-07-27 16:14