Why don't we trust dads?

Submitted by Anonymous on Fri, 2008-11-14 21:23

Article here. Excerpt:

'When Guy Ritchie met his children at the airport this week, he reportedly didn't just receive hugs and kisses. He also got a list from Madonna's PA of do's and don'ts for the kids during their stay...

...why does he need a list of the responsibilities he fulfilled before then?

It's not just an academic celebrity question. Most couples I know have tension in their relationships when dad takes over and mums tries to stage direct from the wings. "They don't eat their spaghetti like that" or "That's not how she does her hair for school" or even "You're folding the towels wrong". Almost every dad I know has experienced it and every mum I know has guiltily admitted interfering, even though she knows it sets her partner's teeth on edge and that the kids will be fine even if dad does it a different way.'

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I think women have a huge self-image investment in themselves as The Caretaker and dad as The Provider, as well as a very big personal vested interest in keeping it that way. The idea that the fathers of their kids may be just as fit as they, maybe moreso in some ways, to be the primary caregiver to the children, causes so much anxiety in them that they go nuts trying to make sure no one can question the nature of the division of labor (and perhaps of assets later) in the relationship. I think it also makes women feel superior to men when they stop and correct them all the time, and also builds a sense that "mommy knows best" in the kids, making it easier to get the kids to side with mom if need be later on.

But when it comes to other things, men can show similar behavior. How many men do you know rush to help a woman with, say, a bicycle repair, but happily leave the child-minding up the them even if they think what the mother is doing is not the best way to handle something? It's just that in that case, the man is being "sexist and controlling". When dear old mom is doing her thing, it's her "being a good mother". Also, dad can't parlay that bike-fixing service in divorce court into a $50,000 alimony check, while mommy's sense that junior needs more juice rather than milk somehow gets her plenty of cash from her soon-to-be ex.

Barf.

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Submitted by Matt on Fri, 2008-11-14 22:23

Her ridiculous legal demands have nothing to do with trust, or the childs welfare. rather it has everything to do with power, and control.

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Submitted by han090 on Sat, 2008-11-15 01:51

From han090: "Her ridiculous legal demands have nothing to do with trust, or the childs welfare. rather it has everything to do with power, and control."

Agreed 100%. The woman is a total harridan nut-bag. In a sane world she wouldn't be allowed 100 miles near ANY child, let alone her own offspring. Guy Ritchie should try to get full custody. Unlikely I know, but at least when his children grow up they'll know he at least tried to get them away from the hatchet-faced control freak's world and into something resembling a normal, happy life.

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"They have the right to work wherever they want to - as long as they have dinner ready when you get home." (John Wayne)

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Submitted by Proud_to_be_a_man on Sat, 2008-11-15 11:44