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The media doesnt help with all of the negative portrayals of males in society. If a male is not risking his life to save someone, he is a fat, lazy, smelly, unattractive, wimpy, idiotic, beer-guzzling, sport-watching, sexist, perverted, lecherous, slobby pig. Why would anyone voluntarily select this?
Not even in the media, but even the way males talk to each other and put each other down. I know of friends that have a message board and the "link of the day" section is filled with either stories/pictures of men doing "weird" things or hot, desirable women.
Whether in the media or even people around me, I frequently witness anti-male and pro-female promotions.
R
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I think there's also a fear factor of raising boys that's nurtured in our culture and media. With feminized men nowaday's loath to raise their voices let alone their hands to errant children (boys especially), the thought of raising a child that will genuinely test boundaries and need limits set is horrifying in the extreme.
Parents-to-be sometimes idealize their young as their new, ultimate best friends. I don't think that is or should be the case!
I remember seeing a 'news special' on tv a long time back about a couple with an 'uncontrollable' (male) adopted child. They sat on the couch being interviewed, looking harried and at their wits end as their child happily crawled all over them, over the couch, poking/pulling at everything in sight.
"What are we to do?" they mewled helplessly. Clearly, the only possible answer to the 'out of control child' was Ritalin.
Very sad.
Never once did they even hint at "Johnny...stop stop that. Come on..." and bodily take him down and 'teach' him how he should behave. I'm sure that they 'tried', but gave up in horror at the first sign of 'disapproval' from their child!
Adoptive parents to be see this sort of junk and start thinking, "Okay, don't adopt a boy...especially not a Russian boy like that couple had on tv...those Russian boys are uncontrollable..." and so on.
On the other hand, I've seen lower income, less highly 'educated' couples (not single parents) who I think should be writing books about raising children.
"Billy, you get those pliers off your sisters nose or you're going to get a whallop. Do you understand me?"
"Yes, Dad," Billy says glumly, releasing his sister. He understands very well!
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Amen. A little whoopass cures a whole lotta evil!
I myself am adopted, and boy did my parents find out that girls aren't always easier!! I am my own reason for being so glad I have 2 boys ;-)
I think that women want little versions of themselves, I know my mother did (she was VERY dissappointed, and shut up Dave, I can hear you cackling from here!)
I think that something about not passing on genes makes most men not as interested in which sex the adopted baby was. Not less interested in the baby, but the sex of the baby.
Who knows, but it was nice to hear all the different ideas.
The Biscuit Queen
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It's not all on the women, though.
Too many 'new age' men are a bit too quick to ignore their parenting instincts as 'cruel' or 'macho' and then just disengage from the prosses as a whole, saying they have 'no control' when they are really choosing not to take the risk and responsibility of exercising control.
We can blame this to some degree on conditioning encouraged by the 'feminist establishment' or what-have-you, but time's a wasting, and kids need dads, not excuses!
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