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Very encouraging news both about the new methods (especially reversable vasectomy) and the claim that men are intersted in male contracptivies.
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A lot of women think that men aren't interested, but I've never talked to a man who isn't. This is especially so in the childfree community. In fact, I found this link on a CF board.
Some people say we already have enough methods of b.c. HUH? We can never have too many. The more choices you give people, the more likely they are to find one that fits them. Besides, we're supposed to keep moving forward in medicine, not stay stuck in the same place.
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Very encouraging news both about the new methods (especially reversable vasectomy) and the claim that men are intersted in male contracptivies.
I seek a day when surgery of any kind is completely unnecessary for 100 percent effectiveness in birth control. :)
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That would be terrific. Even though vasectomy and tubal ligations are both considered minor procedures, they are still surgical procedures and do carry some risk. If people could get 100% effectiveness without surgery, that would be a good thing.
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A lot of my school friends did incredibly risky things because they didn't believe in their own mortality. Riding motorcycles at breakneck speed, taking up crazy sports, and having sex with girls who claimed they were on the pill. Often, young men think that they're never going to die and nothing bad will ever befall them. Nonetheless, if I had known in high school that I could have made myself temporarily impotent, it would have made me a lot more relaxed about sex, and I think that goes for any men. Sex becomes easier and more pleasant without the nagging possibility that she's lying or made a mistake.
On the other hand, that in itself may be a problem. Just as the introduction of the pill was the best thing that ever happened from the point of view of a herpes virus, so too will a male contraceptive be a boon for disease. Anything that makes baby-free sex easier without the odious condom will also increase the spread of VDs.
Nonetheless, I have to cheer for the prospect of more choice and more security for men. This, along with some sanity in the courts regarding paternity testing and support payments, may make it almost pleasant to be a man. Too bad I'll be too old to enjoy the new environment. :-(
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by Anonymous User on Monday December 03, @11:01AM EST (#6)
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We men only have a tiad to work with; vasectomy, condom or abstain. Plus, for the condom we have to use it right at the heat of passion. Women don't have to apply a contraceptive right at climax. If they did they'd make an institution out of it.
This may sound extreme but I had suffered a motorcycle wreck that robbed me of my sex drive for about a year and a half. All I can say is it was one of the best times of my life. No more haze. No more dying need to get with a woman. No more little kick of hormones everytime I saw a woman. I did more in that time than in the previous ten years of my life. I changed jobs, bought 2 houses, went on trips, learned to enjoy the world around me etc. Not only that I think I treated women around me exactly like they wanted with respect and without harrasment. Men have a huge disadvantage in that they, by nature, are sexually drive all the time. What would be nice is if we had a way to control that drive as well. Lets face it, a lot of our problms with women stem from over sex drives. Have a pill we can take once a month to stem off that drive would be awesome. You'd be amazed how much brain power you get back not thinking about women 24/7.
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Yes, less people using condoms will probably mean more disease, but I think that's the lesser of two evils. At least then we'll have adults (or teens) who are being punished for their own bad decisions, instead of unwanted children being punished for decisions made by others, that they had no say in.
Sadly though, I think the new contraceptives will do more good amongst adults than they will amongst teens. You said it yourself; teenagers think they'll never die, and nothing bad will ever happen to them. I remember my girlfriends saying they "knew" they'd never get pregnant because "He always pulls out" or "We only have sex right after my period" or "I douche afterwards." They weren't lying to their boyfriends; the guys believed all this crap too.
Still, some teens are responsible enough to use b.c. I used it, and you said you would have had it been available to you. I don't think a world with no unwanted children is possible, but a world with far fewer is something we can realistically strive for. I eagerly await the new generation of contraceptives.
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Here here Claire.
And contraceptives with fewer side effects or less risk are something to strive for as well. In the meantime, and for the foreseeable future, all contraceptive methods will have some kind of negative aspect. That is no excuse for not using it, and that goes for men as well.
It would alos make sense in the interim to promote those methods with the lowest medical risks. Condoms top that list at the moment.
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by Anonymous User on Monday December 03, @06:54PM EST (#9)
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If all you think about is sex to the point where you can't even have a normal relationship with a woman, or enjoy the world around you, you might be suffering from sexual addiction. I don't know what meds are available, or how well they help, but help is out there. It's not normal for your sex drive to be so overpowering that it ruins your entire life! Go to a dr. and get yourself checked out.
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I don't want to put words in the mouth of the anonymous poster, but I don't think that he was talking about such an extreme situation. I, too, am very aware of my reactions to women. I'm a very analytical, curious person and I often watch myself and wonder why I do things or why I think a certain way.
My sex drive doesn't ruin my life, but it certainly is a character in my life, like an unruly pet dog. When I see some women I do feel something—I know that I see them differently from the way that I see men. I've watched myself and done quite a bit of thinking about what exactly it is that I find so attractive. I think that the anonyous poster's point was that losing one's sex drive completely—seeing men and women as being equally sexually uninteresting—completely changes one's life. I know it would mine, and I don't believe that I have a "problem" that needs fixing.
Unfortunately for the anonymous poster, I think that the purpose of male contraceptives will not be to eliminate sex drive, but to eliminate the possibility of making babies while leaving sex drive intact. Any contraceptive that removed sex drive entirely would certainly by effective (no sex... no babies!) but I think that the consumer base would be pretty small.
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