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MSN: Wow, a Marriage Article Not Written by a Woman or Manhole!
posted by Matt on 05:57 AM October 18th, 2005
The Media A surprise from MSN: What a Happy Marriage Really Looks Like

I truly believe -- and I know I can get a lot of backing from my fellow husbands on this -- that women worry way too much about The Relationship, worry that even the smallest problem is the first step on the road to divorce court. I would be the last one to deny that there are a certain number of marital stress points. But many of them -- certainly the five detailed below -- are not worth one moment of lost sleep.

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Not so fast (Score:1)
by Kyo on 09:37 AM October 18th, 2005 EST (#1)
It still seems to be aimed at female readers (the "you" is usually a woman), and from the perepective of "what he needs to do for her".

Note that with the golf-loving guy and dance-loving woman, he advises the guy to give his wife a nice lunch if he really wants to play golf when she wants to be with him, yet doesn't consider the times when she wants to do something that doesn't involve him. (It's not clear if her "dancing" hobby is something they share.)

It would be nice if, in these articles, the women were occasionally shown to be at fault.
Re:Not so fast (Score:1)
by kavius on 10:04 AM October 18th, 2005 EST (#2)
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I would tend to agree:

He delivers this little talk while standing with his arms folded, watching professorially -- while you do the hard labor. Remarkably, you do not appreciate this advice. Even more remarkably, you refrain from throwing one of those glasses or small bowls at his very big head.

Having said that. I would say that it does show that men have complaints in a relationship too, and are allowed to have them. Something that was completely forgotten in any relationship I have been involved in. It also points out that his way of dealing with problems, may not be the same as her way, and she better just get used to that.

Kyo is right though. Why does he have to take her out to dinner because he has a hobby she doesn't enjoy herself?
Re:Not so fast: sub-text = female fear & control (Score:0)
by Anonymous User on 03:38 PM October 18th, 2005 EST (#3)
A not very subtle sub-text of this article seeks to justify women's inherent control-freak nature, illustrated variously by their self-justified attempts to "police" their husband's behavior, dictate how his time is spent, guilt-trip him for having needs that wifey can't meet, etc. etc.

Many women are attention whores, and the flip-side of control is their fear of not being the absolute center of hubby's universe.

The women depicted in the article are infantile selfish arrested development personalities, like petulant adolescents having an identity crisis.

If this article describes commonplace relationship dynamics in a marriage, then add it to the list of reasons why the Marriage Strike phenomenon is growing.


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