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"I just couldn't help myself", "I can't believe I did that".
Outside forces. Urges. Emotions.
When we were children, we behaved badly because of these things. When asked why, we would answer: "I don't know."
Now, as adults, some of us have learned what to say: "He made me do it."
What would our father's say?
As a child, our concept of justice is shaped primarily by the father figure. What must it say of us when the first defense that comes out of our mouths is "He made me do it. I just couldn't help myself."
I do not think my father would have been amused, entertained, nor accepting.
This mess now. This victimizing. Maybe it's our fault now. Certainly, we are not the fathers of the current people excusing themselves. But do we carry on the sins of our fathers?
Maybe we do it because we fear losing our children. Maybe we do it because we want to provide all-consuming compassion. Maybe we do it because we don't know what else we do.
This woman who says the child seduced her; we are not the right people to judge or punish her - that is a function of the courts. But we can make sure that we do not make the same mistake her parents did.
Don't let your child be the next man or woman to say "I just couldn't help myself" and think that it's a defense.
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