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MSN: "How to leave your husband"
Submitted by Matt on Mon, 2008-06-23 14:45
Article here. Currently it's the first item in their rotating story box on the MSN home page. Excerpt:
'Keep it to yourself. In a pre-divorce situation, there is a fine line between deception and self-preservation. Though you may intend to leave, Woodhouse cautions against telling your spouse before you are prepared. "It would create a great deal of turmoil," she says.
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Karen Kerbaugh, an administrative assistant in Haltom City, Texas, got married in 1996, "and from almost the first month I realized I had made a grave mistake in marrying him," she says.
Although she wasn't deliberately planning to leave at first, in hindsight, she says, "I was subconsciously plotting my escape."
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Muster support on the side. "While I didn't talk openly about the troubles we were having, my close friends and family knew enough about what was going on to be there for me when I needed it," Kerbaugh says. She ended up staying with a friend for a month after she left her husband.
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Don't count on alimony. Should you factor alimony or child support into your potential income stream? Going by the odds alone, that's a dicey proposition and may be more so given the economy.
"You have to assess your risk," Woodhouse says. "Look at who you're married to, how reliable they are, what their attitude is. Then decide whether you can count on them giving you any money."'
Just imagine "How to leave your wife" showing up instead? Can you? I can't.
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Like Woodhouse's client, many women are so upset that it's difficult for them to make their financial well-being the priority it should be. That's one reason for this sobering statistic: After a divorce, a woman's standard of living is likely to drop by more than one-fourth -- 27% -- according to a landmark study in 1996 by Richard Peterson, then a sociologist at the Social Science Research Council in New York.
Haven't other studies been done which show that divorced men are more likely to become depressed and commit suicide than divorced women? Don't divorced men fathers basically have to pay child support and alimony and often lose custody of their kids? Are there not women who make the false DV claims to use as leverage in family court proceedings? If women's QOL drops 27% how much does the divorced man's drop? 75%? 80%?
Gunner Retired
Yeah Lenore Weitzman foisted a bunch of that 'standard of living drops' crap on Americana years ago, and has since recanted on the basis of her math. It's BS that won't stand up under serious scrutiny and collegiate study.
But yes, father suicide is beginning to receive some attention... not enough to fully represent the magnitude of it... but some attention.
Darrin White of BC Can and countless thousands of others like him got the wave rolling.
As for msn media propogated misandric news... this is nothing new: http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=8792&TrackingID=516311&BannerID=544657&menuid=6>1=26000 for starters.
Gunner Retired
Equal Time
We all know that women file ~80% of divorces in the US.
They also tend to be the one pushing for the marriage in the first place.
I guess on the basis of fairness, I'd like to see MSN now produce an article for Men, "How to leave your wife" - with all of the details of how to maximize your return and strip her of children and any claims of any of your future income.
Think they'd do that?
It would only be fair, considering the content of this article.
oregon dad
Another Fine Marriage Manual
I really appreciated this comment by the authoress -
"Tapping a joint account "should be a last resort..."
Nice language. "Tapping?"
Where I grew up, we called that stealing.
This entire article could just as well have been titled - "A Pre-marriage Financial Planning Manual for Women."
With over 50% of all marriages ending in divorce (70% of remarriages)and most of them filed by women, why not call it what it is?
pre-planning divorce?
yep, that's romantic. remember when not being romantic was
the excuse women used to shame men away from prenups?
i've heard people say (men and women) that many women start looking
for mr. right right after the honeymoon. 1st time for love, next time for $$.
MRA's just need to keep pushing those 4 little words
DON'T GET MARRIED!
serioueroiusly tho, w/o that one-sided document
life can be soooo good.
and there really is no good reason to take a chance
w/ you or your offspring's future happiness, wealth, health or sanity.
if she has to have your future to command and control, she is showing you her
intentions right there. would you sit down to a card game w/ your entire
future in the kitty, knowing the overwhelming chances/odds are you will lose?
"fools rush in, where wise men fear to tread..."
before my time. Bing? Frank?
Toucher
I'm actually very grateful to know about all of these shenanigans. It makes me not care about relationships at all. In one way I'm saddenned that I'll never be able to have a true relationship, the ideal one I always saw inside my head growing up, but I now realize that that was all just a fantasy anyway. Women these days are too greedy for that kind of happiness to be possible. They don't marry for love, they marry for money. Then they complain that the world is stacked against them. I've called bullshit before and I'll do it again. 'Tis a sad sad world.
Evan AKA X-TRNL
Real Men Don't Take Abuse!