Deadbeat son is a sign of America’s failure to raise boys

Article here. Excerpt:

'Last week, a judge in New York ruled that a 30-year-old man must move out of his childhood home on June 1 after his parents served him with several notices asking him to go. The ruling inadvertently exposed a hidden truth: The boys are not all right.

A generation of damaged boys are turning into impaired men and, as seen by the mocking coverage of this case, we’re treating this development like a joke, encouraged to ridicule and condemn them for it.
A Pew Research poll from 2016 showed that men age 18-36, exactly Michael Rotondo’s demographic, were more likely to be living at home with their parents than alone, with a roommate or with a partner. That’s a startling statistic, especially as the same isn’t true for women. We can’t blame this stagnation on the entitlement of the millennial generation when half of that generation is living their lives as intended.

Part of the problem is we’ve been encouraging girls at the expense of boys. The language of empowerment we use around girls is absent from how we talk to boys. The expectation that males will succeed just because they are male has been smashed, just like feminists wanted, but now what? To shrug our shoulders and not care what happens to a generation of young men is to produce a generation of Michael Rotondos, adrift and living at home as they enter their 30s.

It doesn’t help that this demographic is also finding it so hard to get, and stay, employed. An Economic Policy Institute report from February found that men are absent from the workforce in large numbers. This is a big change from the past. The report noted that “in 1979, only 6.3 percent of prime-age men did not work at all over the course of a year, but that number nearly doubled to 11.9 percent in 2016.” The telling thing is that there isn’t widespread concern about this; instead there is a celebration that women are outpacing men at school and at work.'

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... acts as an outstanding deterrent against women pestering you to marry them.

There ARE up-sides. :)

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OK. One other thing. A person who lives with other people w/out kicking in is not a deadbeat. He or she is a FREELOADER.

A deadbeat is a person who doesn't pay back their debts.

Just sayin'.

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. . . why men are likelier to be living with their parents at that age is because some women are able to find a partner who is willing to give them shelter and pay their way, whereas this is virtually impossible for a man. For men, it's simply fly or die, and then be ridiculed if you don't succeed. For women, no big deal if you don't fly, just find a status symbol to marry.

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