Why this man who barged in on his cheating wife could go to jail for 15 years

Article here. Excerpt:

'A husband caught his wife cheating, and now he’s facing up to 15 years in jail.

Sean Donis’s wife, Nancy Donis, 38, said she was going to dinner. Donis stayed behind to watch their 5-year-old son. When he couldn’t find his iPad, he turned on the Find My iPhone app to locate it.

The software showed the electronic device moving toward an unknown location; he had a hunch that his wife had taken it, and he decided to follow. He arrived at a house and opened the unlocked door. On the second floor, he found his wife in bed with her boss, Albert Lopez, 58. With his iPhone, he recorded two brief videos of them in bed.

The New Jersey man got a letter last July informing him that a grand jury had indicted him on charges of felony burglary and unlawful surveillance for the April 2016 incident.
However, despite the fact that Lopez slept with Donis’s wife, prosecutor Nabeela Mcleod asserted that Lopez was a victim — a victim of Donis’s breaking and entering his home and recording him and Donis’s wife without their consent (Donis shared the videos with his wife’s relatives). He now faces a possible maximum sentence of 15 years in prison.'

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1. He got married to a woman. It would've been safer had he been gay and married a man. Barring that he never should've gotten married.
2. He had a child. Big mistake for men to become fathers these days.
3. He actually caught his wife banging someone else. In this case it was her boss (what, a woman was FUCKING her boss behind her husband's back?! Never!) Perhaps she will also sue her boss for fucking her. Men are losing careers these days for a lot less, sometimes for nothing they actually did.
4. He had the presence of mind to collect evidence of the cheating. Tsk tsk.

These days, one needs no evidence of philandery to get a divorce. You just file for it. No-fault eliminates any need for a reason for a divorce, not that I think divorces require any particular justification. The married state is for most men so undesirable I think they should be able to get a divorce once they come to their senses.

Married women fucking other men on the down-low, especially their bosses, is as old as the hills. In fact I'd say anyone who gets married, male or female, who actually expects fidelity from their spouse is being unrealistic/delusional. Going into marriage, one should always assume their mate will be unfaithful and expect it.

Fulfillment in life seems largely to be about adjusting expectations. Expecting ppl to behave at best in a morally/ethically neutral fashion and to pursue their own interests/happiness/thrills w/o regard to others is a good baseline to start at. Assume this in all situations and you set yourself up to be pleasantly surprised should they actually behave altruistically or morally/ethically. When 99% of the time they don't, you will feel no disappointment.

"Happiness is a choice." Or so it's said. Happiness seems largely to be a function of expectation fulfillment. The reason the happiest person in the world is a piss-poor French Buddhist monk is probably due to the fact he's adjusted his expectations down to zilch. (Happy thoughts are largely thoughts of things requiring very little in the way of expectations, or so I've noticed.) That and the endorphins in his brain from all that meditating.

"Expect the best, plan for the worst, and prepare to be surprised." -- Denis Waitley

I believe Denis was putting a marketing spin on the whole idea. At its core, he was saying, if it can go wrong, it probably will. D-Day's a good example. The landings went terribly, as compared to The Plan, but expecting the whole thing to go tonto made sure the Allies were prepared to go forward anyway. And they did despite screwing the pooch on the landings.

Better stop now, I'm running out of pithy quotations to babble on about.

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This is a weird case.  My hunch is that the husband knew his wife would take his iPad, he wanted to catch her and humiliate her, and somehow he thought that if he uses the excuse that he was recovering his "stolen" ipad, it would give him a right to enter into the house.  It doesn't.

This case is really between the resident of the home and the husband/intruder.  The resident of the home was not breaking any laws, the husband did when he entered the house.  It doesn't matter who a person is sleeping with (as long as it is consensual under the law, etc).  You cant go into a home uninvited,  and record two people having sex without expecting to be charged with a crime.  The man is lucky he did not get shot.

And also sending the video out to her relatives, that's a crime. I hope the judge goes easy on the "breaking and entering" charge and hard on the revenge porn charge.

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"My hunch is that the husband knew his wife would take his iPad, he wanted to catch her and humiliate her, and somehow he thought that if he uses the excuse that he was recovering his "stolen" ipad, it would give him a right to enter into the house.  It doesn't."

Holy cow, Kris. This reminds me of the old joke about how the unpopular ship's captain accidentally shot himself in the head three times while cleaning his pistol, then fell over and rolled around on the deck causing him to become entangled in a rope attached to an iron watch bell which just accidentally went overboard during a heavy swell, dragging the captain's body overboard with it.

The investigation was nonetheless closed as "inconclusive".

But I do agree that now that divorce is no-fault, collecting evidence of infidelity isn't necessary. Why he bothered to under any circumstances, I don't know. He should have never married her in the first place. But since he did he should've divorced her a lot sooner.

Marriage is bad. It's the leading cause of divorce. :)

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