"The Unexamined Brutality of the Male Libido"

Article here. Excerpt:

'Men arrive at this moment of reckoning woefully unprepared. Most are shocked by the reality of women’s lived experience. Almost all are uninterested or unwilling to grapple with the problem at the heart of all this: the often ugly and dangerous nature of the male libido.

For most of history, we’ve taken for granted the implicit brutality of male sexuality. In 1976, the radical feminist and pornography opponent Andrea Dworkin said that the only sex between a man and a woman that could be undertaken without violence was sex with a flaccid penis: “I think that men will have to give up their precious erections,” she wrote. In the third century A.D., it is widely believed, the great Catholic theologian Origen, working on roughly the same principle, castrated himself.
Acknowledging the brutality of male libido is not, of course, some kind of excuse. Sigmund Freud recognized the id, and knew it as “a chaos, a caldron full of seething excitations.” But the point of Freud was not that boys will be boys. Rather the opposite: The idea of the Oedipus complex contained an implicit case for the requirements of strenuous repression: If you let boys be boys, they will murder their fathers and sleep with their mothers.

Sex is an impediment to any idealism, which is why the post-Weinstein era will be an era of gender pessimism. What if there is no possible reconciliation between the bright clean ideals of gender equality and the mechanisms of human desire? Meanwhile, sexual morality, so long resisted by liberals, has returned with a vengeance, albeit under progressive terms. The sensation of righteousness, which social media doles out in ever-diminishing dopamine hits, drives the discussion, but also limits it. Unable to find justice, or even to imagine it, we are returning to shame as our primary social form of sexual control.
I’m not asking for male consciousness-raising groups; let’s start with a basic understanding that masculinity is a subject worth thinking about. That alone would be an immense step forward. If you want to be a civilized man, you have to consider what you are. Pretending to be something else, some fiction you would prefer to be, cannot help. It is not morality but culture — accepting our monstrosity, reckoning with it — that can save us. If anything can.'

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Mr. Marche is clearly very uncomfortable with the fact that he really likes to put his hard **** into a woman's ******. The fact that doing so explains how babies get made and without it, none of us would be here, seems to go past people like him.

I do hope before he schedules his castration surgery that he goes to a good psychotherapist first.

P.S. Do notice this is in the NYT. Just sayin'.

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'Marche's article unblinkingly cites sources such as radical feminist writer Andrea Dworkin (best known for arguing that all heterosexual sex is a "pure, sterile, formal expression of men's contempt for women") and, we shit you not, fairy tales such as Little Red Riding Hood and Bluebeard. Hard on the heels of Dworkin is what seems to be an admiring reference to "the great Catholic theologian Origen," who apparently "castrated himself" in order to preclude any possibility of sexual violence. Or something.

No article on male libido would be complete with a pass through some pop-psychology, and Marche doesn't disappoint (or maybe he does, for any readers remotely familiar with psychoanalysis). Marche throws in references to Sigmund Freud's theory of the Oedipus Complex, the notion that young children develop unconscious desire for their opposite-sex parent and rivalry with their same-sex parent. These statements are made with no awareness that Freud's theories as-written (why bother to know any analyst after Freud? He's the cool one!) are at best controversial and, more importantly, apply to all genders. One can only imagine how an article titled "The Unexamined Brutality of the Female Libido" would go over.'

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