Children Don’t Exist to Advance Your Politics

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'`There were two parts to the feeling: I had to mourn the life I thought I was supposed to have, the elder daughter of my two girls (why do we plan things we cannot control?!), and I had to come to terms with having a relationship with a son that I had never really considered. There were dark moments in the middle of the night (when all those dark thoughts come), when I felt sick at the thought of something male growing inside me.`

And looking to the future, the anxiety grew: How do you raise a white, middle-class boy not to think his own experience is the default experience of the world?

`How do you counter a society that makes things easier for him than for others, and make him see it? See how it is for women, for people of colour?`

But all was not lost. Dunning, refusing to bend to the patriarchy, decided to embrace the opportunity. “I will raise a feminist boy,” she declares.

`I will point sexism out to him at every turn, and he will never get away with it without being called out. I will show him that girls are just people like him and that products and art targeted at them are no less valuable or enjoyable. He will be immersed in feminism by a family who models it in their everyday life.`

She will, she says proudly, “do feminism a great service.”

The last hundred years are stocked to excess with the utterances of the apparatchiks of totalitarian ideologies: the brainwashed praise of “comrades” and “Dear Leaders.” But sinister ideologies don’t always take the form of men in boots and epaulets. Sometimes they are soft, even cooing.
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It’s a delicate matter to question someone else’s child-rearing, but it seems that a boy should be brought up not to be a good feminist, or a good Communist, or a good Republican, but to be a good man.'

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"good man"?

To a feminist, a good man is the kind of shamed, browbeaten, defeated being the subject would raise.

I do hope he escapes the vile clutches of his mother in time to develop an actual non-toxic self-identity.

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"The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world"

It's a good thing feminists don't have many children. Hopefully people like Lena Dunham will never have any.

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How feminists raise boys

The feminist described here makes clear how feminists raise boys: to hate themselves and likely end up suicidal, as did the one boy of that gal who wrote that hit piece on her own sons.

It is, of course, the worst kind of sexism, which turns a mother against her own sons.

One of the myths that feminists have destroyed is the myth of motherly love. At one time, the love of a mother was treated as the purest form of unconditional love--why, mothers even loved their own sons. That myth has been completely destroyed by feminism. It has been replaced with motherly hatred.

That is not a good development, in my humble opinion.

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