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Warren Farrell Responds!
posted by Scott on Monday August 21, @08:42PM
from the interviews dept.
Announcements You asked for it, you got it - Dr. Warren Farrell has responded to the interview questions, and I would like to apologize for the delay - there was a bit of a mix-up in getting Warren's e-mail, and it's not his fault that it took so long. So, without further ado, click on "Read More..." to see his responses to the questions that were selected for the interview.

Submitted by John Curtis - "Questions for Dr. Farrell":

Dr. Farrell,

Thank you very much for your continuing efforts to support fairness and equality between the sexes. Your work has had a great impact on our society and on me personally.

As men are not organizing themselves well yet, certainly not as well as feminists have organized, do you see any positive effort that men as individuals can make to help men, women, families, and children? The men's movement does not have any widely recognized leaders, (other than yourself) do you see anyone that men can organize behind or assist? And, what do you feel would be the best area for men to work in, to help achieve fairness in our government and legal systems?

Thanks very much, and please keep up the good work.

John Curtis
Ojai, CA


Dear John Curtis,

Good questions. The main barrier to the men's movement making progress is the hundreds of thousands of years of evolution that have developed in men a protector instinct toward females, and have led to females choosing men who are protectors. It is difficult to lead a movement confronting those you are supposed to protect, especially when you are dependent on them for love, affection, respect, approval, and sex.

The first solution is decreasing our dependence -- learning to also receive love, affection, respect, and approval from men. More information on this in Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say.

The second is working on issues related to boys and sons, since women have a protector instinct toward children. Check out Christina Hoff Sommers' The War Against Boys and Michael Gurian's The Wonder of Boys.

The third solution is focusing on father's issues, since that also benefits children and there is a critical mass of men, families, etc., that can identify personally with those issues. This is the reason my next book will be called Father and Child Reunion.

One of the most productive issues we can focus on is a men's birth control pill. I outline the reasons for that, and the current status of the research, in Father and Child Reunion.

Submitted by an Anonymous User:

There seems to be a growing ground swell of anger among men today aimed at feminism and the inequities that men suffer both under the law and as practiced by society at large. Do you forsee any kind of increased backlash against feminism and or women in general?


Dear Anonymous User,

Often the word 'backlash' is used to prevent ourselves from hearing what is being said. It helps to look at what men are saying as men trying to be included in the process of gender transition rather than excluded. The feminist movement has become gender politics' one-party system, and the reason all one-party systems become corrupt is because they don't have to listen to feedback. Do a careful read of Why Men Are The Way They Are and Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say and then let me know if you have a different perspective.

Submitted by Skippy:

I have been trying to buy another copy of The Myth of Male Power, and I have been having trouble finding one. If there is one book that feminists (and a lot of other women) don't want men to read, this is the one. Is the book still in print? If not, what can we do to get this book back on the market again?


Dear Skippy,

You said you couldn't get hold of The Myth of Male Power and asked if it is still in print. Yes, you are correct -- it is the book that has the most impact. The bad news is that it is out of print. The good news is that it is supposed to be back in print in January. If you would like a copy before January, I have some left. You may send me a check for $14.95 to:

Dr. Warren Farrell
PMB 222
315 S. Coast Hwy 101, Suite U
Encinitas, CA 92024-3555

It would also be helpful if you logged onto the Putnam/Berkley site and asked about when the book is coming back into print. They are at www.penguinputnam.com; then just click on the Contact Us option down the left side menu and email them.

Submitted by Kyle Knutson:

Although I was wise enough not to have purchased Michael Kimmel's book, "Manhood in America", I have taken the time to read substantial portions of it at my local library. I will also say that I've read some of his other writings and I did see him once on the Phil Donahue show several years ago. To be blunt, Mr. Kimmel seems to suffer from a severe attitude problem -- sexist and misandrist to the core. Perhaps he's just trying to ingratiate himself with all manner of feminists to whatever extent possible, with all regard for truth, honesty, and objectivity cast aside. In any event, he strikes me as a very sad man indeed.

Be that as it may, what is or was your reaction to his above mentioned title, specifically the chapter where he calls you such things as 'whiner' and 'chameleon'? Have you ever been able to engage Mr. Kimmel in a serious discussion about men's issues and the myriad prejudices and discriminations that men face? Or does he just go ballistic at any suggestion that the world out there is something other than the never-ending domination and oppression of innocent, wonderful women by evil, brutish men?

In a society and culture filled with far, far too many Michael Kimmel types, I cannot say enough in praise of the Warren Farrells of the world.

Kyle Knutson
National Coalition of Free Men
Twin Cities Chapter


Dear Kyle,

Thank you for your positive responses to my work and for your questions about Michael Kimmel.

I have had a half dozen or so contacts with Michael. My one-to-one discussions have been fairly positive, but as soon as he gets in public, especially on TV, he becomes verbally abusive and takes a hard-line stand that men are the oppressors and therefore anything that happens to men is their fault, created by their rules. I have learned slowly over the years to not focus my attention on the idealogue, or on his or her motives, but to say what I feel is right, listen to where I may be wrong, make changes, and then put it out there and take what comes.

Submitted by The Mule - "Where Are Men's Reproductive Rights?":

Dr. Farrell, you have had your attention focused on various ways which men are discriminated against, and spoken and written at length about your findings and thoughts. As there is a growing consciousness about discrimination against men as to reproductive rights, it becomes obvious that this particular inequality gives rise to some of the most widespread and egregious atrocities visited upon men. Why has there been little to no coverage in this area by you or others in the media?


Dear 'the Mule,'

You are correct that until now I have given minimal attention to men's reproductive rights. For the past 13 years I have been working on research and writing drafts of my thinking in this area. It will be published next January as Father and Child Reunion (Tarcher/Putnam/Penguin). In Father and Child Reunion, I outline Men's ABC Rights, or, more precisely, Men's and Women's ABC Rights and Responsibilities for decision-making in the areas of Abortion, Birth control, and Care of child.

Submitted by Michael Osterbuhr, mdo9318@labs.tamu.edu - "Uniting Men's Groups":

Dr. Farrell,

What do you see as the potential for a political unification of the various and sundry branches of the "men's movement"? :)

- Michael Osterbuhr


Dear Michael,

I think it is helpful to have conferences and conventions that create unifying themes, and help us join forces where that can be useful. But unity often leads to bureaucracy, political correctness, and the suppression of diversity. That, in turn, undermines the initiative of individuals with different ideas or newcomers. Over time, if we become a force in the social consciousness, we will receive funding which will lead to unifying organizations and conferences. I look forward to that time as long as we keep attention simultaneously focused on encouraging diversity.

In Canada, David Shackleton is doing a Unity Trek to bring some unity to their diverse men's and fathers' groups.

Submitted by an Anonymous User - "Keeping books in print.":

I notice a lot of books on men's rights disappear after a very short time, and as an author yourself, do you have any ideas or suggestions on how to keep books on men's issues in print? Any really male-friendly publishing companies you'd recommend that don't have high sales quotas to keep a book on the shelves?


Dear Anonymous User II ('Keeping books in print'),

Yes, men's issues books disappear quickly, and only a small fraction of those written appear at all.

The real solution is buying ones that are printed. Once publishers see a men's book is selling well, they will jump on the band wagon to publish more, and few publishers drop something from print that is making them money.

Tarcher/Putnam is quite male-friendly.

Submitted by sean beeson:

Dr. Farrell, who if anyone do you still have contact with from your days with NOW and are they at all sympathetic to men's issues?

-:)))s sean beeson


Dear Sean Beeson,

I still have contact with Karen DeCrow, a former president of NOW, who has become quite sympathetic to equality in the area of fathering. Unfortunately, though, she is the exception.

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