Men are the empathetic sex

Women suck at empathy: Men are the empathetic sex

Full article by archwinger is here. Excerpt:

A woman is typically very, very good at recognizing when other people are feeling something, especially something that’s going to affect her. And she is very good at recognizing when she is feeling something. But she is very, very bad at recognizing what the feelings she perceives actually are. Not just other peoples’ feelings. Even when it’s her own feeling, she has trouble naming it.

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This is also why every single time you talk to your wife about what’s going on in your life, she misses the mark entirely and has no clue why you’re telling her this stuff. And the more you talk, the more frustrated she gets because she doesn’t understand what you want from her or how any of this affects her. And when a woman doesn’t know what to do, she feels stupid, like she’s failing somehow. That feels bad. And because she feels bad, she won’t have sex with you. Instead, she just gets angry. How dare you confuse her by telling her all this stuff that’s going on in your life.

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Women suck at empathy.

When your best friend tells you something that’s going on in his life, the first thing you think about is how he must feel about it. Maybe you suck at empathy and get that wrong and respond inappropriately. Maybe not. But you’re asking the right internal question. You’re thinking about how he feels based on what he’s describing and what you know about him, and trying to respond to his feelings.

When you tell your wife something that’s going on in your life, the first place her mind goes is “Why is he telling me this? If our situation were reversed and I were the one talking, why would I be saying this?” And that’s the feeling she assumes you have. Which is why it always seems like she doesn’t get you and has completely missed the point of the entire conversation. Because instead of putting herself in your shoes and figuring out how you’re feeling, she assumes you’re wearing her shoes, and everything you do is for the same reason she would have done it.

This is why nearly everything she accuses you of and every feeling she assumes you have as she calls you bitter, selfish, mean, manipulative — is a mirror. She’s naming her own common feelings but projecting them at you.

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