'As the World Cup dominates headlines around the globe, soccer star Hope Solo has found herself in the news but not for reasons she or her fans probably hoped. Solo was arrested for allegedly assaulting two relatives. Solo becomes yet another high-profile woman accused of assault. Security footage reportedly capturing rapper Jay-Z on the receiving end of an attempted assault by his wife Beyonce’s younger sister, Solange, in an elevator became one of the biggest stories of the year.
Yet the footage didn’t inspire any serious discussion of inter-family violence. Instead it resulted in a lot of speculation—and jokes. Saturday Night Live produced one of its most inspired, and funniest, sketches in recent memory on the incident. But if the genders were reversed, would anyone be laughing?
“I think we do not take female abusers as serious as males,” Dr. Michelle Golland, a clinical psychologist told me. Golland, who has seen female abusers in her practice, added, “This is evidenced by the fact they are less likely to be charged with violent crimes. If they are charged, females will not serve as much time as males. We see this across the board, whether child abuse, sexual abuse, teacher/student abuse, or any type of assault.”'
'ESPN reported the ugly scene from the police report. Statements given to police by the USA soccer goalkeeper’s 17-year-old nephew reveal that Solo arrived at her half-sister’s house upset that her husband, former NFL tight end Jerramy Stevens, had refused to take her to the airport for a flight.
Solo was inebriated and became even more upset when she thought her nephew had insulted her. Things calmed down for a bit until her nephew’s interest in acting was mentioned. The nephew said you need to have an “athletic state of mind” to be an actor, to which Solo responded he was “too fat and overweight and crazy to ever be an athlete,” according to the police report.
Solo’s nephew called her an expletive, and the argument escalated from there. Solo ended up charging and punching her nephew, according to the police report, and her half-sister eventually became involved. The report states that Solo’s nephew broke a broom over her head to attempt to prevent her from assaulting his mother, and when that didn’t work, he pointed a broken BB gun at her and told her to leave.
When police arrived, Solo’s nephew was bleeding from one ear, and his nose and jaw were red. Solo’s half-sister had a swollen left cheek. No injuries were reported on Solo.'
'Over at the American Enterprise Institute's blog, AEI scholar and professor of economics Mark Perry crunches the numbers on instances of sexual assault at the main University of Michigan campus (Perry teaches at the sister campus in Flint).
His determination? Sexual assault at U-M has declined notably and in line with national statistics, casting doubt on the left's characterization of the problem as an "epidemic." From the blog:
"The chart above shows the annual number of sexual assaults at the University of Michigan-Ann Arbor from their annual crimes reports, like this most recent one. It should be noted that the UM crime reports include sexual assaults that took place: a) on-campus, b) off campus (including out of state) and c) on public property. Further, it includes sexual assaults reported to: a) the University of Michigan Campus Police Department, b) other police departments and c) non-police organizations like the UM Sexual Assault Prevention and Awareness Center. Therefore, it’s a pretty comprehensive report that covers off-campus sexual assaults andassaults not reported to campus police, but to another police department or to a university office or official – in contrast to some universities that apparently only report sexual assaults on campus and only to the campus police.
As the chart above shows, the number of “campus” sexual assaults at UM has been trending downward for the last decade, and in 2012 (most recent year available) the number of sexual assaults (34) was about half the numbers in 2004 (64), 2005 (65) and 2006 (65)."'
Story here. Makes my skin crawl to read about these kinds of horrid things happening. I just wish people in general reacted with the same degree of disgust when boys are mutilated as when girls are. I wonder why people don't get it that if it can be done to boys, it can be done to girls, too -- once the principle is accepted, the specific follows. Those seeking to end FGM will I hope soon realize that taking up equally the end of MGM will not only expand their circle of allies in the cause and access to resources, but also the goal is more likely to be met sooner than not. Excerpt:
'School health services in the small Swedish city of Norrköping have found 60 cases of female genital mutilation (FGM) among schoolgirls since March, with evidence of mutilation found in all 30 girls in one class, 28 of the most severe form.
In Sweden, where the EU’s Institute for Gender Equality (EIGE) says that FGM “is considered to be a serious problem,” the law enables genital examination of children to be carried out without parents’ consent.
FGM has been a crime in Sweden since 1982 and can be punished by up to four years in prison, increased to 10 years if judged to be an aggravated offence.
According to EIGE, concerns about FGM became widespread in Sweden in the early and mid-1990s with the influx of Somali migrants: “The first national action taken in the field…was initiated after alarming testimonies from the healthcare sector indicating the existence of FGM among many — if not all — women that originated from FGM-practising countries.”'
'National Parents Organization member Mike Connors has developed a following on TalkShoe for his regular podcast, Connor’s Corner. Using his success in this medium, Mike is hosting several podcasts about National Parents Organization’s issues and work. Mike is volunteering his expertise to promote National Parents Organization and to engage new members.
To kick it off, Mike invited me to speak with him about National Parents Organization’s key successes and our work on shared parenting and parental equality within family law. Our discussion is an overview of where National Parents Organization is in its goals; how I got involved; and where we are heading. Of course, my time with National Parents Organization has been marked with drastic change.
With founder and chair Ned Holstein, MD, MS, determined to develop a name and brand that communicates our mission, vision, and core principles, I identified two members with the professional credentials to lead us in the naming and branding of National Parents Organization. Dan Enthoven and Tim Gelling provided their expertise pro bono.'
'On May 9th, 2014 the Government of Mexico joined Brazil in creating legislation on parental alienation. It is immediately included in their Civil Code. Possible penalties include immediate loss of child custody, restriction on visitation and even provisions for jail term.
This is apparently the text in Spanish, an unofficial translation into English follows. (If any member can help with a better translation, please post it. I got very confused - and concerned - at one time while struggling with translation, until I realised that the Spanish for 'father' is the same word as for 'parent'.)'
'The arrest of an Olympic gold medalist on charges of domestic violence would normally be an occasion for a soul-searching conversation about machismo in sports, toxic masculinity and violence against women. But not when the alleged offender is a woman: 32-year-old Hope Solo, goalkeeper of the U.S. women’s soccer team, who is facing charges of assaulting her sister and 17-year-old nephew in a drunken, violent outburst. While the outcome of the case is far from clear, this is an occasion for conversation about a rarely acknowledged fact: family violence is not necessarily a gender issue, and women—like singer Beyoncé Knowles’ sister Solange, who attacked her brother-in-law, the rapper Jay Z, in a notorious recent incident caught on video—are not always its innocent victims."
'The defamation lawsuit former Iowa State University basketball player Bubu Palo has filed against the woman who accused him of sexual assault two years ago will be difficult to win, risks introducing new criminal evidence against him and, should he prevail, could discourage others from reporting rapes to police, according to legal experts and a leading Iowa victims’ advocate.
In May 2012, Palo and his friend Spencer Cruise were accused of raping the alleged victim after agreeing to give her a ride home from a Campustown bar and instead taking her to Cruise’s father’s house, where the two men allegedly assaulted her. Palo and Cruise were subsequently charged with second-degree sex abuse, a class B felony punishable by up to 25 years in prison.
The Ames Tribune does not publish the names of alleged victims of sexual assault.
The cases against Palo and Cruise were dismissed in January 2013, before going to trial, based on a forensic analysis of a blouse the alleged victim wore the night of the incident that determined it had been torn after the alleged assault, contrary to statements she had made under oath.
“I think that there are valid public policy reasons that a judge might want to look very carefully at such a case and make sure that there’s really good evidence to support (the defamation claim), because otherwise it is going to be very harassing of sexual assault victims,” Dauber said.
Barnhill agreed, citing widespread societal misconceptions, contrary to statistical evidence, that false rape reports are common and that sexual assault perpetrators are most often strangers to their victims.
Lawsuits against alleged victims, she said, are “really unfortunate.”
“I think it can discourage reporting. It’s a terrible precedent, and I think that there are a very small number of false reports.”'
'Let’s set the stage. As the politically correct, faux-Marxist college campus environment continues to deteriorate, average American families—and students—are beginning to seriously question just what they’re getting in return for enslaving themselves to increasingly inflated tuition bills.
It’s a big problem for college men in particular. In addition to having to maintain and increase both grade point averages and personal alcohol tolerance in a competitive environment, they also are required to behave like celibate monks when it comes to interacting with the opposite sex.
That’s because all college men, particularly those of the Caucasian persuasion, are viewed by college administrators and professional campus feminists as feral, potential rapists.'
'This puts me in a quandary. Men's football is loved in Britain simply because the players are men, and men like watching other men play football, and what men like to do and like to watch is, de facto, culturally important. Even the fact the men's World Cup is not explicitly stated to be a men's competition erases women – I predict there will be little fuss made of the Women's World Cup in Canada next year. So do we women sideline ourselves by boycotting the games or do we take up space and holler along because it is fun and exciting? You could argue that the Fifa World Cup is also ageist and disablist (footballers are doomed to retire as soon as their wisdom teeth fully descend and disabled people are tacitly excluded – let's not forget that a former England coach was even sacked for his dodgy views) and there is a difference in football's relationship with women.
British men's football is so deeply sexist that even the boss of the Premier League engages in email conversations where women are referred to as "gash". Male footballers are boys' role models, yet have been openly violent towards us.'
'A call to make this Father's Day a Feminist Fathers' Day and for dads, papas, bapas and all parents along the masculine gender spectrum to embrace feminism and resist misogyny in our families and society.
In the wake of the Santa Barbara mass shooting and the misogynistic and racist manifesto the killer left behind, women all over the world launched a Twitter-based rebellion that put misogyny and sexism front and center. Far too many men have responded, "but not all men act that way," using the hashtag #notallmen. At best, that such a defense is even needed proves that there is a very real, unavoidable problem; at worst, it sounds as though they are saying, "don't blame me."
Rad Dad Magazine believes patriarchal violence in society is epidemic and takes place in a vast culture of misogyny, male entitlement and male privilege. Against the reactionary cry "not all men," we say, "all men need to actively challenge misogyny and cultivate feminism in their lives, families, communities and society."
Rad Dad Magazine recognizes that fighting patriarchy requires more than believing that, individually, we are not like "those other men" - because privilege doesn't work that way. We can't be silent about it or pretend we don't have it. In the pages of Rad Dad, we embrace feminist struggle against patriarchy as key to creating healthy families. We offer stories of people struggling to be better men, to be better community members, to be better people.'
'A social movement that promotes equal rights for men who want to parent their children is essentially feminist. But the current fathers’ rights movement is not.
I could simply point to the fathers’ rights fringe groups, with their misogynist rants and close ties to the men’s rights movement, to make the case that the movement is not only anti-feminist but anti-women.
But even the more moderate groups within the fathers’ rights movement engage in a backlash against feminism when they attempt to discredit the experiences of female victims of intimate partner violence and roll back legal protections for all victims of domestic and sexual violence.
Self-proclaimed fathers’ rights activists minimize the well-documented prevalence and severity of domestic violence against women, accusing domestic violence advocates of promoting false allegations that alienate children from their parents.
Many fathers’ rights activists argue that women perpetuate as much, if not more, violence against intimate partners and that most domestic violence is mutual, ignoring or discounting all research to the contrary. They accuse programs that serve battered women of discrimination on the basis of sex, even to the point of bringing (unsuccessful) lawsuits against them on equal protection claims.'
'Why is there no uproar about boys falling behind all other groups? It could be because it doesn’t fit the media-favored and feminist-promoted falsehood that girls are at a disadvantage in what they call a “patriarchal” society. The college completion report explores the complex reasons for the gaps as well as what we can do to improve the outcome for young men. One reason identified by the authors is the absence of a father in the home. While evidence shows little girls can escape some of the negative effects of growing up with only a mother, the same situation is devastating for boys.
In a New York Times article, “A Link Between Fidgety Boys and a Sputtering Economy,” the author states: “Girls who grow up with only one parent — typically a mother — fare almost as well on average as girls with two parents. Boys don’t.” In the same article, Elaine Kamarck, a former Clinton administration official, states: “We know we’ve got a crisis, and the crisis is with boys.” (New York Times, 4-29-14)
A Wall Street Journal opinion article, “Ignoring an Inequality Culprit: Single-Parent Families,” bravely addresses a sensitive issue. The authors write that “Roughly a third of American children live apart from their fathers.” They continue, “From economist Susan Mayer’s 1997 book What Money Can’t Buy to Charles Murray’s Coming Apart in 2012, clear-eyed studies of the modern family affirm the conventional wisdom that two parents work better than one.” (Wall Street Journal, 4-20-14) This lack of fathers in the home is of particular consequence for young men who need male role models, discipline, and mentoring.
Article here. [Ed. note: The embedded links in this post are modified from how they are in the referenced story as it currently exists. It appears as if the Time web site folks made a mistake with these links; when clicked in the cited page, they send the browser over to Time's on-line Outlook web access portal, undoubtedly not something they wanted to have done. I have sent them an email making them aware of this fact. As for the embedded hyperlinks below, they have been corrected from the originals to point to their intended places.] Excerpt:
'A weary wrestling coach once lamented that his sport had survived the Fall of Rome, only to be vanquished by Title IX. How did an honorable equity law turn into a scorched-earth campaign against men’s sports? This week is the 42nd anniversary of this famous piece of federal legislation so it’s an ideal time to consider what went wrong and how to set it right.
Title IX applies to all areas of education but is best known for its influence on sports. Women’s athletics have flourished in recent decades, and Title IX deserves some of the cheers. But something went wrong in the law’s implementation. The original law[see ed. note below full item view] was about equality of opportunity and indeed forbade quotas or reverse discrimination schemes. But over the years, government officials, college administrators and jurists — spurred on by groups like the National Women’s Law Center and the Women’s Sports Foundation — transformed a fair-minded equity law into just such a quota-driven regime, with destructive results.
'Chelsea Clinton on Monday said more must be done to encourage gender diversity in high-tech jobs, including finding role models for young girls who want to break into traditionally male-dominated math and science careers.
"There are fewer girls who are aspirational in the math and science fields in the United States than there were 20 years ago," Clinton said during a panel discussion Monday at the Denver Museum of Nature and Science. "We have significantly fewer women graduating with computer science degrees.
"We have significantly fewer women graduating with mechanical engineering degrees than we did in the mid and late 1980s," Clinton said. "We're really losing ground in this area, which is why we have such a frenetic focus."'
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