"Single, Male and not a stereotype"

Story here: Excerpt:

'... some proud, single men say they're better off alone.

"A man is a sperm bank, a meal ticket, a handyman and an early retirement plan," Gulvin says.

For those reasons and others, he has decided to go through life without committing to one romantic relationship.'

This is an AP story that appeared on the back page of the local paper today. The treatment is not as even-handed as one would like, but is better than I would have expected from my local Leftist/Feminist fish-wrap. I think the reporter wasn't sure how to sneer at men for being single by choice when women have been lauded for "independence" for so long.

Men are learning to take a long, cold look at the women that are trying to manipulate them into a "relationship", and ask the key question, "what's in it for me?". Most of the time, the answer is going to be "Not as much as it is going to cost you." This story is about some men who have asked the question and come up with a realistic answer.

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Any so-called journalistic piece that quotes e-Harmony.com as a credible source on men's attitudes about relationships is 100% bogus.

e-Harmony is whack-job central HQ if you are seeking to hook up with a female sociopath.

I wish this was hypothetical, but I have the "I Survived e-Harmony" t-shirt and the required unlisted phone number after my brief experience with Dr. Neil Clark Warren's psychotic harem.

He has some scary bitches he'd like to set you up with.....

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...just read this:

Sorry, but marriage and sex DON'T go together. Excerpt:

'She admits she stays in her sexless relationship for the sake of her children, aged nine and 11, and will remain celibate until the day they are grown up and she feels able to leave. At which point, she confesses, she will probably abandon her husband and begin a sexual odyssey to find the satisfaction that eludes her.
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"I want to maintain the family unit because it makes other things possible, like doing things together with the children. But one day, when they are older and I can think about my own needs again, I may leave and start all over again.

"In the meantime, I want to tell other women that they are not alone in not wanting to have sex with their long-term partners. I don't think it's possible to maintain the passion of the initial chase. But it doesn't mean you won't experience those feelings again with someone else."
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Perhaps when her children are grown up, Carrie will do as she intends and leave her marriage.

Only then will she know whether the fantasy of taking in multiple lovers and never committing to one man is a greater thrill than being in a monogamous marriage.'

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I would add speed dating to e-harmony (the latter I haven't tried). I mean, you go to an event where you'd think that the women attending are open minded and nice, and instead many of them are cold and hostile. A few minutes with many of them will provide lasting unpleasant memories of a ill-conceived and superficial concept.

Speed dating merely takes a bad idea (blind dating) and makes it worse.

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Aa old man said to me ..
" son, you know what, women nowadays, are selfish, greedy, hysterical, and you will either let them go, or you'lle get dragged trying to hang on!!"

just let e'm go!! (marraige strike!!)

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Exactly. Marriage is a quagmire for men. Pointless. BTW, the woman, Carrie, in that article is the most selfish woman I've ever heard of. If I was Hal, I would leave her.

Evan AKA X-TRNL
Real Men Don't Take Abuse!

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A single woman can freely choose to have, and screw up, a fatherless child. A single man cannot generally have a child. I'm sure if there was such as thing as "borrowing someone's uterus", the surrogate mother would still probably keep the baby and file for child support (I realize that some couples use surrogate mom's, like if the wife has medical issues, but that's totally different than a single man using one).
-ax

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When men do what this lady is talking about doing, they call it "mid-life crisis".

-ax

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I went to one of the attached "singles" sites from this article and found this in their news letter "Marriage penalty relief in 2008 should embrace
the spectrum of the modern family. Married households represent less than half of all households. Relieving them of tax liability relative to the majority of taxpayers hardly seems fair."

In other words, they want to define any collection of any type of people into the tax code as a "family". These even include room mates, friends, etc....people who share expenses to reduce costs. This would include a college dorm or frat house. They want these defined as a "family".

This is the problem we married folks have today. The singles are trying to legislate against those the are making profound sacrifices for the benefit of society. And being successful. It is not parents and families that are advocating to let 13 year old girls get abortions without parental notification. It is the singles who have no idea what they are talking about because they do not have kids.

oregon dad

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When a government starts to change the definitions of words that is eerily reminiscent of George Orwell's 1984. Which, might I add, is the best book I've ever read, next to the Bible.

Evan AKA X-TRNL
Real Men Don't Take Abuse!

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