Marrieds now in the minority-- gee wonder why?

This will come as no surprise to MRAs. What is significant about this piece is the readers' comments. They are unabashed and unflinching in saying why they think "the M word" is no longer in vogue. Enjoy!

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Of course everyone knows that marriage is a two sided coin. One side is the "oh, I just can't live without you my soul mate," and the flip side is the inevitable divorce which is known as "she got the gold and he got the shaft!" syndrome.

The married man winds up 50% of the time with a middle aged tyrant in a black robe deciding how much of his own money he is allowed to keep and that is backed up by some burr headed 300lbs trigger happy sheriff's deputy. Who needs that crap?

I hope this bastard society experiences more and more social and economic problems because men are not getting married anymore! And they can take their precious VAWA and corrupt family courts and stick it!

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I slogged through the first 100 of 300+ reader comments.

Everybody has their personal theory for why marriage is failing.

Fewer than 10% directly state that men are refusing to marry because of the toxins of feminism.

The majority opinion is that society / family / relationships are deteriorating.

That's not an explanation; even less a theory; no real ideas as to the causes to be found.

The word "feminism" does not come up much.

Maybe because once an ideology has become as accepted as oxygen, it becomes invisible?

There's a Ph.D. to be had in the comments thread if some women's studies major wants to pursue it.

Maybe the MRAs will clock in later in the thread.

It's like asking why a cadaver is a dead person.

It's a DEAD INSTITUTION!

No one wants to name the killer.

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I was too lazy to read the document responses, so I did a text search in my browser, on "feminism" and "feminist/s". I got no matches. What must that mean? People are either afraid, or too dishonest, to raise the issue; or like someone said not many people are noticing facism..excuse me!..feminism, as a reason (maybe since it is more an indirect reason).
-Axolotl

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Another thing that I'd like to add is that since the dating scene is becoming more and more dangerous everyday [thanx to the FBI, True.com, Match.com, and Myspace just to name a few] why bother? Would you ever end up battered and bruised in a dark alley if you tried to take a woman's hand in matrimony? Or propose to a person whose folks disrespect you and/or want you jailed? Don't do it guys...give yourselves a pat on the back; our little marriage strike is paying off--resistance is futile!

Eman
Emma.noelle.blay@hotmail.com

*****masculism is a black male's best friend!!!!!*****

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110. Robert:

Marriage is something instigated by men. In other words, a man has to consider it and then ask, “Will you marry me?” Obviously less men are doing this. Why?

Well, I’m considered an attractive, 41year old, intelligent male with a great sense of humor, a super career and a really great life. I don’t chase loose women, I’m currently not in a relationship, and I rarely have sex. When asked, “Why haven’t you married?” my answer is, “Are you serious? Do I look like an idiot?” The reason less people are getting married is that men aren’t asking. The reason for this is the behavior of American women.

I travel the world a lot, and I live in the Caribbean. I can tell you that without a doubt, American women (and American society in general) have a totally unique way of treating their men; specifically, straight men.

In other parts of the world, men are treated with much more respect than in the states, women carry themselves in a more dignified manner, and everyone gets along much more respectfully. In the states, there is an underlying anger toward straight men, and somehow american women don’t ‘get it’ that this is a major reason men are asking for marriage. I talk to friends about this, and they all agree. In conversation, as we scan our society’s women, we actually laugh out loud at the prospect of actually being foolish enough to get married.

As long as American women, the american media etc. insist that it’s ok to be
condescending and disrespectful toward straight men, there will be less marriages. It’s a very simple thing. It isn’t that there aren’t great women in our society, there really are, it’s just in general, straight men are treated badly, especially when compared to how men are treated in the rest of the world.

American women, you insult our intelligence when you sleep around, drink a lot, cuss like sailors, disrespect us and then expect us to marry you. Sure, we love sleeping with you, drinking with you, cussing with you etc., be we sure as heck aint gonna marry you! Straight American men are not as stupid as our society makes clear they think we are.

Be nice, actually show real respect, and maybe a man will respect you enough to ask you to marry him. Remember, if you don’t get asked, you don’t get married. Men are calling the shots on this one, and we’ve stopped shooting.

American women have become by and large like ‘one of the boys’.

He doesn't come out and directly say that feminism is the problem, but he shows how the symptoms of it are causing men to stop asking.

--Demonspawn

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There are hits on those words. But I do think most men are still not aware of the injustice of family courts. Most just don't know why they should do it, except maybe for tax benefits.
Materialism and capitalism could well be the most important reasons, especially when it comes to deciding not to have children. A lot of people think they simply can't afford a child. Many of these probably could if they cut down their standard of living (if nothing else works, there's welfare where I live), but that's where we get back to materialism..

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...don’t make a femnag your wife!

I gave marriage a try twice, and to tell you the truth, my best times thus far have been in-between marriages. I’m single now and intend to remain that way. I no longer subscribe to the idea that I need another half to make me whole; I’m not half a person! Instead of spending my resources pampering a chronically malcontent self-centered whack-job, I invest in hobbies and interests that bring joy to my life.

So what does a liberated woman have to offer in marriage that I might find attractive? Most of them expend their younger years trying to prove themselves by competing with men in education and careers, then, when their biological clock catches up with them, they want to settle down and have babies. Men are supposed to be thrilled about marrying a woman whose youthful beauty has fallen victim to gravity and too many hours spent under a sunlamp. A woman who is about to enter menopause and will drive a guy crazy with the emotional insanity that often accompanies it. That’s more palatable if she gave you the best (younger) years of her life; kind of a trade-off.

Today, when I find a woman attractive, I ask myself “Is this just my hormones talking?” I look past the physical and try to imagine what it would be like spending the other 23 ½ hours of the day with her. If I engage in some conversation with her, and she commences to spew out some liberated rhetoric, then, poof, there goes my interests! Maybe I’m just getting older and my hormones have leveled out, but, the fur-burger doesn’t carry as much weight as it used to. One thing I know for sure, I would not exchange whatever peace-of-mind I have to hook-up with a liberated bimbo! If I feel the need to have some sexual tension released; I just hire a professional. The nice thing about a pro is she goes away when the deed is done!

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Greed, relativism, feminism.
-Axolotl

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