Mary J. Blige beats up her husband - deafening silence from MSM and DV advocates

Is anyone else hearing so much as a peep out of the MSM or so-called DV advocacy groups about this story? Not a word.

Well maybe I am just all fired up on coffee and OTC cold meds today but as far as I am concerned, this is not just going to slip by in the usual stream of news stories that bombards us daily. This is if nothing else THE example of the decade of how DV vs. men is utterly ignored by just about everyone who may (or may not) hear about it via the MSM or any other source. It's nymphotropism and cognitive dissonance in action x 1000. One day I imagine it will be a case-study that SOC101 students will be made to write essays about. (Well, a fellow can dream, can't he?)

The MSM reflects what they believe (and all too often, get right) their viewers or readers want to see in the content they serve up. If there is some inconvenient truth that needs telling, they need to be informed to get on the stick and start telling it or else start losing their advertisers or subscribers.

Let's start with TV contact information, then the (so-called) papers, then radio. Click 'Read more', as I will list contact information for as many MSM sources as I can think of. Also, I will write a sample letter for you to use. Let's roll on this, since if we cannot move on such an open, high-profile, and egregious example of the double-standards at work here, then we may as well hang it up.

BTW, I am not asking only US residents to act on this. The entertainment industry is world-wide. People like Mary J. Blige jet-set all over the place holding parties and premiers. People in other countries have as much purchase on this issue and right to point out her behavior and their own countries' MSMs' negligence to them as those of us in the US do.

Television:
ABC News
MSNBC News
CBS News
CNN News General
FOX News (pick "America's Newsroom")

On-line/"papers":
Drudge Report (scroll down to "SEND NEWS TIPS TO DRUDGE" and submit link to any page with this story covered on it, such as the one on the NY Post)
USA Today (looks like Letters to the Editor is the best way to go there)
NY Times (hope springs eternal; anyway, they need to know we're watching)
LA Times
Boston Globe
Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Dallas News
Minneapolis Star-Tribune (this is the letters to the editor form)
SF Gate/Chronicle
Washington Post
NOLA

Radio shows:
About.com has a good list of nationally-syndicated radio shows here. Call, call in, or email.

Feel free to add contact info in the comments for other news sources you think it would do us good to contact (and really, are there any that are not?)

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I will suggest text or commentary along these lines:

I am perplexed that a recent report such as the one about entertainer Mary J. Blige (a woman known to stand up for victims of domestic violence) beating up her husband in public at a recent record opening has not appeared in the news reporting on your (site/radio show/etc.). The NY Post seems be one of only a few sources covering this story (see http://www.nypost.com/p/pagesix/blige_hauls_off_on_husband_o32W7IKFja08UXzRipJiHI).

This fact is all the more perplexing given that there are plenty of examples, regularly reported, of DV by men against women in the media, but despite private and US government studies showing the relative equality of assault incidents among heterosexual couples crossing gender lines (see http://www.ncfm.org/chapters/la/dv_data.html), reports such as this one are un- or under-disseminated by mainstream media outlets. This creates a false impression regarding the nature and prevalence of domestic violence and hinders efforts to get a truly just measure of the problem, as well as a good chance at forging solutions that are effective.

Please do your part as a (paper/radio show/etc.) to help repudiate this inequity. As a (reader/listener), I ask that you cover this story immediately and solicit input from DV specialists who recognize the true nature of DV as an "equal-opportunity" problem. I would also like to say that I make my (reading/listening/etc.) decisions for news and information based on how well I feel the facts regarding the world are being reported by a given source, even if those facts seem to be "inconvenient truths" by some people's measure.

Sincerely,

[Name]
[Contact info]

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I sent emails/comments to

I sent emails/comments to all the TV networks.

The address for FOX is newsmanager@foxnews.com

-ax

Thou rocketh.

=)

Charlie Sheen, Mary J. Blige and Tiger Woods – stuff happens

I posted a piece yesterday at my new site:
Charlie Sheen, Mary J. Blige and Tiger Woods – stuff happens

Trudy, I looked at your

Trudy,

I looked at your site, and I'm wondering why that newspaper in Florida is starting a series on DV even though the husband has only been listed as the alleged killer.

-ax

anything to sell

anything to sell papers!

T____

Really? I didn't gather from

Really? I didn't gather from reading your post that that was your perspective:)

-ax

Detroit Free Press

Here's another newspaper link: Detroit Free Press

I submitted to all the newspapers, I'll check out radio too. Like I always say, awareness is the first step.

Open Your Eyes by Jay Hammers

More like it

This is more like it. I have emailed them all.
Mindelle Jacobs of the Sun News Paper chain would be one to email as well.
Mens violence is front page news for this chain but womens violence. Nada.

mindy@sunmedia.ca

Barbara Kay at the National Post is sympathetic to the cause but I see none of this incident on the pages of NP as of yet.

bkay@videotron.ca

Her latest article is here

As I have virtually copied and pasted Matts words. It would be best to send your own to these two. See below

Ms. Jacobs:
When Rhianna hit Chris Brown in the head with her stiletto heels while he was behind the wheel trying not to lose control of the car and Brown overreacted1, what did mainstream media report? They showed us Rhianna's injuries, but were totally silent about what part Rhianna's temper played in the altercation.
When Tiger Woods' wife attacked him with a golf club2, the mainstream media ignored his wife's violence. Hardly any of the mainstream media reported that the Florida Highway Patrol described Woods' injuries as "serious".3 Instead they waited for more stories about Woods' affairs to come out so they could spin it as a tale of Woods' infidelities rather than about female-perpetrated domestic violence.
Now we have the case of Mary J. Blige, a woman who purports to be concerned about domestic violence, so much so that she has provided part of the funding for a domestic violence shelter named in her honor4. But her comment, "Women from all walks of life, not just women from poverty-stricken areas," makes it clear that only female victims will be helped by her shelter. And her actions make it clear that she believes that as a female she enjoys the privilege of using violence whenever any male displeases her. On Christmas Eve, the New York Post reported that she punched her husband in the face, drawing blood, because she thought he was flirting with a waitress.5 How has the rest of the mainstream media covered her hypocrisy? The silence has been deafening!
I am perplexed that the report of her beating up her husband in public at a recent record opening has not appeared in the news reporting on your site. As stated above The NY Post seems be one of only a few sources covering this story (see http://www.nypost.com/p/pagesix/blige_hauls_off_on_husband_o32W7IKFja08UXzRipJiHI).
This fact is all the more perplexing given that there are plenty of examples, regularly reported, of DV by men against women in the media, but despite private government studies showing the relative equality of assault incidents among heterosexual couples crossing gender lines (see http://www.ncfm.org/chapters/la/dv_data.html), reports such as this one are un- or under-disseminated by mainstream media outlets. This creates a false impression regarding the nature and prevalence of domestic violence and hinders efforts to get a truly just measure of the problem, as well as a good chance at forging solutions that are effective.
Please do your part as a representative of the Sum media outlet to help repudiate this inequity. As a reader, I ask that you cover this story and solicit input from DV specialists who recognize the true nature of DV as an "equal-opportunity" problem and cite the above incidents as recognition of the inequities perpetrated by the mainstream media and society in general. I will ask again. Why no mention?

Badger

A response

I emailed Ms. Kay and received a response within the hour. Fantastic.

See Below.

Ms Kays response here

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Badger