College blogger touches the fire with 'Advice 4 Women: How to NOT Get a “Deserved” Raping'

Blog entry here. Excerpt:

'...had I been a less-than-understanding guy (i.e., a forceful-type of guy who always “gets what he wants by any means necessary”), I could have just as easily forced a kiss on her, or worse - waited until after the club let out to follow her to her car, then followed her to her house. And, when she got out her car, I could have been right there ready to pounce on her, saying: “I think you owe me something, lady!!”

Sound far-fetched? Seeing as girls get raped everyday around the world, it’s not an implausible story.

Now, had I gone through with the second example, I’d be called a “monster” who “preyed upon this girl for no reason,” and would be looked down upon for doing such a thing. And, like I said before, given the actions that were taken in the second example, that title would have been deserved.

But, what about the girl? What about HER part in the scenario?

What about the fact that this girl, who didn’t have any REAL interest in me, simply teased me to rile me up in the hopes of boosting her own ego? What about the fact that this girl grinded her ass on my penis not once, twice, or three times, but several, SEVERAL times??

What amazes me is, women do this kind of stuff all the time. They do certain actions or say certain things to make a guy think she’s going to give up her goods, then turn around and act shocked - SHOCKED, I tell you! - when she says “No” and he still tries to force himself upon her.'


Ed. note: I know this particular posting is likely to generate a great deal of heat. But the frustrations of young men encountering the glaring double-standard of judgment vis-a-vis their sexuality as compared with that of women are as fit a topic of MRA discussion as those frustrations experienced by their older fellows, whose current problem has shifted from this topic to, say, getting the shaft in "family court".

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I posted on his blog as follows:

It took courage to write this entry. Any time a man objects to the overt and manipulative teasing of a woman he is condemned for being "beastly" (in the UK) or "a pig" here in the U.S. And to frame it in terms of the #1 hot-button topic of RAPE is especially ballsy. You are sure to get plenty of attention for this post.

The frustrations and bull$hit you are noticing is, alas, as old as the hills. But take heart, as men and women age, this kind of thing dies down. Women soon learn that other women will resent their behavior (as it may be construed as trying to move in on bfs/husbands) but most importantly, men are far less susceptible to this kind of thing and such women soon rightly earn a reputation as a good old-fashioned c*ck-tease. However as you are finding out, there is that stage before full maturity that people are in where their newly-formed sexualities combined with their lack of experience so far in life as well as with the other sex often causes a great deal of frustration and annoyance (on the part of men) and a lot of silliness and ego-indulgence that people realize too late was a bad idea (on the part of women). A good part of what is happening here is repro-biology at work-- the relentless demand on Nature's part to see more children getting produced has resulted in a huge power imbalance between the sexes that is tipped most definitely in favor of females when in the early stage of adulthood. Women hold all the cards at that age. The best way, IMO, to deal with it is to avoid any kind of serious dating in the late teens and early 20s, and learn fast to identify the girls that excel as c*ck teases and avoid them entirely-- avoid them on dance floors, hallways, for God's sake never date one, just stay away from them entirely. As you get older, as a man, you will grow into your "natural power"; you will command more respect, and will become increasingly independent as well as savvy not just about women but life in general. But for women, the luck runs in the other direction. As they age, they become less powerful and increasingly "desperate"; just look at Madonna. Thirty yrs ago she was THE model c*ck tease-- now she's a washed-out pathetic old histrionic lady. And that is Nature's idea of a "joke". Some joke! Nature is cruel. Nature has no conscience. And to think, everyone, feminists the loudest, will insist Nature is female! :)

OK, I hope this helps some. Being a young man is tough. And it's a lot tougher these days than it has been in the past (or so I think). Hang in there. Your time is gonna come!

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I agree, when I went back to college at 25-29 after I got off of recall for Enduring Freedom I found most of the girls beautiful on the outside, yet only considered dating 7 in four years. Big surprise, they were all taken. /ego stroke - I am very athletic, above average looking according to friend's wives, Yet these girls just play games and are extremely immature and gutless to any real conversation that doesn't involve them and there main stream attempts at being a college rebel. When they decide to go from career to real relationship in their late twenties/ early thirties, I think they will be in for a surprise that silly little games don't work and claim a guy drought or w/e. I'm becoming very disappointed in American woman's super sized egos with mob mentality contrived visions of how life is suppose to be instead figuring out what makes them happy as an individual.

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"had I been a less-than-understanding guy (i.e., a forceful-type of guy who always “gets what he wants by any means necessary”)"

I think there's still a HUGE difference between a 'forceful-type' and a rapist. I'm not sure I like the suggestion that guys who aren't the 'understanding' types are automatically suspect for rape. Calling out 'teases' is one thing, pointing out how a woman can decrease her chances of being attacked by NOT behaving that way is certainly not a problem as well. I just don't like the suggestion that only the 'really understanding' guys aren't going to follow them home and force themselves on them, in fact this stereotype that a lot of guys are possible rapists is one of the main MRM issues.

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Agreed. Perhaps the author was just short on words for the idea he meant to express. But I see what you are saying and agree that often an assertive man who has ideas contrary to nymphotropist thinking will be either directly or indirectly accused either of being a rapist or harboring pro-rapist beliefs. That is a tried and true tactic of anti-male bigots and feminists alike meant to shut down the legitimate complaints of men who call them on their misandry. It's a tired ploy but one whose days are numbered.

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I commend this author for his courage. However, I think he could have chose a better title. At least he explains that no one ever deserves to be raped in his introduction.

I have to agree with almost everything he says. I don't understand how women can enjoy the immature game of leading men on so much. I've been on the receiving end of this kind of crap for years now. Like the last girl I asked out. She acted like she was really interested in me (and it's not just me, almost everyone I work with thought she was into me too), yet she rejected me when I asked her out. I've pretty much given up on dating for now.

I'm currently 23, and I'm now looking forward to my 30s, because I know that dating won't be as much of a childish game then. I'm hoping that by then most of the women I encounter will have gotten their 'sleep around' and 'men are only good for what they can get me' mentalities. Truth be told, women who think that way, make me wanna vomit.

Real Men Don't Take Abuse!

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if you are 23 doesnt get easier when you are 30 or older. Because the women then get more "mileage" and more mental problems because of it. When I was in my 30s I was shocked at how many women wanted to sleep with me and move in to my apartment all within a couple weeks. It still blows me away. I am now in my mid 50s and married with kids. I look back at those days and do not relish them. I would have never guessed there were so many head shot and worthless women out there simply on the make for a guy to live with and get their hooks into.
If I had it to do over again - I'd finish my schooling and move to asia and find a fine woman over there. And speaking from experience, you CANNOT bring her back to the USA. You must stay over there if you wed. Bringing a foreign woman to the US will only make her into an american bitch. Just do not do it.

oregon dad

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I have to agree with itsdan on the huge leap from "very understanding guy" to "rapist" as if there's no middle group.


It took courage to write this entry. Any time a man objects to the overt and manipulative teasing of a woman he is condemned for being "beastly" (in the UK) or "a pig" here in the U.S. one says beastly in the UK.....

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i've tried defending the blog writer.

i almost feel guilty about doing this.

it's like i'm picking on retards.

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