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by Davidadelong on 06:33 PM March 3rd, 2006 EST (#1)
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I have found that when some women make a pass at a Man that if they are turned down they will accuse the Man of being gay, thereby causing consternation and distress which eventually leads to the Man giving in. A ploy used on Men that move to a new area when he is trying to lay low, or just doesn't want to fool around or get "hooked". Wouldn't that be blackmail, or something more sinister? I went to college when I was 35, and from waht I saw there wasn't a whole lot of harrassment going on, the women ruled the campus from waht I saw, and the Men kept their heads down. Of course I was married at the time, was already "taken" and was there to learn as much as I could...I still had some offers from younger Women, and a few Female professors.
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by oregon dad on 08:47 PM March 3rd, 2006 EST (#2)
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SIBLING AGGRESSION MAY BE
PRECURSOR TO DATING VIOLENCE
By Aaron Levin, Science Writer
Health Behavior News Service
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Belligerence among brothers and sisters can lead to violence later in dating relationships, according to a new study of Florida college students.
“Perpetrating sibling violence had the greatest impact on perpetrating dating violence,” says lead author Virginia J. Noland, Ph.D., of the University of Florida. “Parents should know that sibling violence is not without consequences and sometimes the consequences are severe.”
The findings appear in the American Journal of Health Behavior.
Noland and colleagues asked the students about both physical assault and psychological aggression involving parents, siblings or dating partners. Three-fourths of the students said a brother or sister had pushed or shoved them or that they had done so to a sibling.
Males experienced more sibling violence, but women reported more dating violence, both as victims and as perpetrators.
Noland says the context of female-on-male violence is unknown. Women may be more willing to report using a violent tactic with a date without specifying whether the violence was defensive or offensive. Violence by women against a male date also lacks the societal stigma of the opposite dynamic.
In any case, Noland says, violence is much more accepted among both genders today than in the past. The climate of violence in some families may be reinforced by external violence, whether experienced in school or seen on television, has an effect, as well.
“In the media, it’s as common today to see a woman hitting a man as a man hitting a woman,” she says.
Even psychological violence takes a toll over time, Noland says — being called fat or ugly or stupid gets incorporated into a negative view of one’s self.
The researchers found that males reported more violence with their siblings than females, reflecting existing thinking about such conflicts. But relative age proved more important than gender. Children closer together in age experienced higher levels of violence. Sibling violence apparently peaks when the oldest child in a pair is between 10 and 14 years old. It lessens as children spend more time outside the home with their peers.
Parent-to-parent violence also proved to be less important than expected, Noland says. Instead, the effect of parent-to-child violence on sibling conflict was much more significant.
Noland says the findings emphasize the danger of corporal punishment, which she says sends the wrong message — that it’s OK for big people to hit little people.
“Memories of parent-to-child violence experienced by the child supersede memories of parent-to-parent violence that was merely observed,” she says.
“We learn from the behavior of people important to us, especially power figures,” she says. “Children who experience corporal punishment may do it to their younger siblings and eventually to others.”
For researchers, Noland says, the next step is to look into the importance people place on violent behaviors to see which is worse, verbal or physical, and to understand the context in which aggressive conflict tactics are used.
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by Davidadelong on 09:11 PM March 4th, 2006 EST (#3)
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Nice post, but what do you think, and what were your experiences? I could quote a plethora of statements from other People, but where do you come from?
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by oregon dad on 12:04 PM March 5th, 2006 EST (#4)
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well yunno - I really don't know how to post an article yet. And this was related to the NOW dogma, so I slapped it up there.
The article is so full of bulloney on so many levels. Another "spanking is bad for society" message.
What is DOES state, however, is that women are just as likely or possibly more likely to use violence during dating. There is an admission for you. So why not in marriage?
They also point out, that while women may be more likley to report female violent events during dating, the is still not the societal stigma associated with THAT, as opposed to if males are violent.
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by Davidadelong on 08:19 PM March 6th, 2006 EST (#6)
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In my limited experience I have found that Women usually start violence in most relationships. Usually used with the warning that Men are not supposed to hit Women. My own sister tried that crap on me, actually she was successful for a time until I retaliated. When she told me that I wasn't supposed to hit her I pointed out that she hit me first, and if she didn't want to get hit back then she should stop. My first wife slapped me. My second punched me, and my third pushed and slugged me. I stopped all of them without beating them up, or damaging them. I have had dates where the Woman would slug me on the arm, last date. Female on Male violence is rampant. A lot of it has to do with the training that most of us receive as Children, still to this day Children are being raised this way. No one should hit anyone without expecting to be hit back. Physical, or corporal punishment of Children is a completely different situation. The problem is that there are so few adults that know how to control themselves due to their own Childhood that it just continues the cycle. Proper corporal punishment of a Child will not hurt them. A smack on the hand, or a smack on the behind to get their attention is much different than beating them to release your own frustration. Setting rules and following through with them; and also let us not forget that setting an example is very important goes a long way to raise a Child to be a good Citizen that can think for themselves.
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Roy writes "Citing a new research study by the